Does Size Matter?
It is perfectly normal to feel some nervousness or uncertainty when you first become intimate with someone. Poor body image, weak self-confidence or sexual inexperience can all contribute to this negative effect. Penis size, or a lack thereof, can create so much confusion and insecurity, even to the point of obsessiveness. It is useful to have SOME size, but more than a few inches doesn't make the difference between a good lover, or bad. In any case, you don't have to let it weaken your performance; you can pleasure the heck out of someone regardless of size.
We’re no longer living in the proverbial caveman days where a big penis dictates a man's virility, sexuality and masculinity; if it's connected to a vulgar, inexperienced oaf then he doesn't stand a chance. Although a big package might make your life a little easier, you won’t have much of a grace period if you have inexcusable sexual habits. Being a master in the bedroom is not just about deep penetration. It's about having confidence, openness and impressive bedroom skills - with emphasis on skills...
Some women truly don't even like a big penis – it can be uncomfortable or downright painful! Also, of much more importance to a woman is penis girth (measurement around the penis) rather than length; the nerve-endings within a woman's vagina end within a couple of inches, so the sensation of 'feeling full' is generally more about the width than anything else.
Work on your skills and up-sell them! Your penis won't be as big as one of her dildos, so don't bother competing! Why not become the master of cunnilingus and make sure to hone your fingering skills? Or how about turning into a walking sex encyclopedia? You'll impress her with your knowledge and dazzle her with your talent.
Maybe consider a massage course; it can make your partner feel so aroused and will help you appreciate the importance of touch and sensuality.
Feel confident about yourself – if she doesn't think that you're comfortable with your penis, she definitely won't be. The way that you feel about yourself is very apparent to women because they always want to read between the lines. Don't direct so much apprehension to places you're uncomfortable with; a man with a very obvious complex is a big turnoff. She might not have even noticed had you not obsessed about it.
Respect your sexual partner, whether they’re long term or not. This will translate to her feeling more comfortable and more receptive. The openness that she feels will actually improve her sexual experience with you (score for you) but she’ll be much more interested in reciprocating the same respect with inexhaustible invigorated effort. Score for you again.
Utilizing certain sex positions can make your penis seem like a giant's. Try integrating sexual positions that focus on g-spot stimulation; they make use of the right angles and shallower penetration. Avoid the showy poses that even the most endowed fellow couldn’t handle. Also consider seeking out specialty condoms that are tailor-made for a smaller penis – when you need to call upon them in your time of need, you won’t be worrying about how they fit.
Tighten up some other areas of concern in your life so that you have fewer things to worry about, let alone what other people might think of your penis. Even just the action of self-improvement will change your self-perception. There are things you could do to procure bedroom approval: exercising to improve body image; having better grooming techniques like trimming or shaving your pubic area; good hygiene (smelling good & having fresh breath); and, preparing your sex space for maximum impact (even if that is only just tidying it up).
No matter what size you are, one thing is for sure. The biggest thing that your partner will notice is how much you respect and satisfy them in bed... honest!
its all how u work it not
its all how u work it not the size thats wat it seems like to me. if you dont know how to work it then u aint got nothing going for u so i hope u know how to give oral sex.
ive been truly blessed to
ive been truly blessed to have a fiance that is 8-9 inches...so ive never had to deal with this problem(hes the only man ive had sex with)but i have dealt with the pain when he hitts my vaginalwall which hurts alot.....and sumtimes leaves me with cramps afterwards....but as someone said....we talked it out ,found the rythym and now he tries not to penetrate too deep:)
lots of my friends have told me however that they have found just as much if not more pleasure with average sized men....although they said it felt different it was still great
so to all the men who worry about it
dont
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personally i think that what
personally i think that what ur saying is bs ... its true that some girls love big p*****s but not all ... I talked to great girl over a long period of time and I personally trust what their saying ... and they told me that they prefer smaller in size ... and they told me something else that it all matters how U use it cuz if u know that ... ur like god in women terms ...
Size
I thought size mattered. I had men who were average or bigger and they never gave me an orgasim. But my boyfriend has a little or should I say smaller one and he makes me cum more than the big ones.
Penis Size
Yes, I am the same way. I have had bigger and its all nice but my fiance has a smaller one and I can orgasm when he's on top whereas I never could before with anybody else... Its so nice... Feels so good... I love my man and his small penis..
how come
ever since i strted ive gotten bigger went from lifestyles to magnum XL why is this?
Meh
I don't care about penis size, it's the person that matters. I wish men would realize that and stop fretting about their size.
Like my friend says.. "it's not the size of the penis that matters.. it's how large the vagina is.." :D
sex position guide
quite helpful. it gives a better understanding of what position is being explained
It doesn't have to be XL or XXL
I prefer men with average to above average length. I prefer the average to thicker than average girth. I was with a man who had a small penis, but he was the best oral lover I'd had. He was also very heavy. I know that if he was of average to a few extra pounds, his penis would have been bigger. How do I know this? Because I have a friend who said that when he lost weight, the fat in his belly decreased, showing a longer shaft.
I have had a longer penis hit the depth of my vagina and it was painful. However, with practice with him we were able to avoid that feeling.
I would like to think that I don't judge a man by his penis size...but I have. I was with a man whose penis was short and thin. (Not the same guy as above.) I think that in time, we could have found a rhythm that would have worked for both of us, but I gave up too soon.
One responder said she'd choose a good lover with a huge penis over a good lover with an average penis. WRONG! For me atleast. Who's attached to the penis makes a big difference.
What I do know is that if you're not sexually compatible with the person you're dating, do not pass GO, do not collect $200, it's time to move on or create compatibility. The relationship won't last if the sexual chemistry doesn't jive...
Furthermore, love the skin you're in. It's the only body you've got...
Thanks for reading. :p
all I know is it is the
all I know is it is the worker, not the tool. I am only 6.5 inches long and 1.5 wide or for the ones who measure roundness 4 3/8 circumfrence. Not much by any standard but every woman I have been with has told me I was a fantastic lover. It is because I am happy with what I have and I am confident I can please. I do everything in my power to please her and in the end it pleases me. I have also built up my kegals so when I cum it is an earth shattering, multi-orgasmic explosion. As I lay GENTLY on my lady after orgasm and shudder with smaller orgasims they love it. I have had high school girlfriends, now married with kids, beg me to take them to bed again. Be a dynamic lover, make HER happy first and quit worrying.
size
Size doesnt matter as long as they can work the dam thing. I have been with guys as big as 10 inches and it not be enjoyable. I have been with men as small as 4 inches and it end up being great. Right now I am with someone that is pretty average, maybe 6 inches. There are times when I wish he was bigger but it's not necessary. As long as I have a good time he will always be #1 to me. :)
staying hard
im with this girl i like a lot. i cant seem to stay hard all the time. whats going on?
it happens
I have this problem too sometimes, If its going down while in the process of sex then try going faster and trying to get into it more. If its before sex then yor probably nervous just calm down and relax if you can and whe sex does happem try to get in her a bit faster than normal.
condoms
my lover doesn't really seem to care at all how big my penis is, but that's beside the point, I recently found that it's gotten bigger since the first time. I've gone from just being able to buy any size condom, to having to buy XL. well, actually I have a 12 pack of Lg, but they are just barely big enough to fit, but they're like $13 at the place I buy from. I just can't afford to buy more yet, but, am I at a greater risk of condom-breaking if it's not really big enough? I don't really know if I am at a greater risk, then I need to buy bigger ones, but I can't if I don't need to, because I come from a fairly poor family and that's simply too much and I don't want to spend it unless I have to.
are you sick
man, wake up. I understand you have money issues, but if you want to f**k 20 bucks on condoms aint shit, cause medical bills are 1000 times more for std and aids when someone gets it for not being careful ... just take care of yourself.
I feel you there bro. It's
I feel you there bro. It's just not really my prime money-consumer. I have bills, and other stuff.
I never in my life had this
I never in my life had this problem ... maybe I've just been lucky to be with "huge" partners. I would say they were all over 7" so I never even thought about it. I was with someone who's dick was too big and it was the worst. Everytime we were in a "deep-penetration" position and he thrusted too hard he would hit the back of my vagina and it truly feels awful (it would hit my bladder - I'm petite).
I advise anyone with this problem, or in general, to read the kama sutra (the REAL one). It talks about penis and vagina LENGTH. There are small, medium, and large. It feels best when they are appropriately paired.
Girth/width on the other hand is different. The wider the better ... a woman's vagina can stretch to ungodly widths and this is the best sensation ... being overly "filled" is not.
Big is good but the bigger isn't the better!
Well guys size does matter. It is always good to have a well endowed penis. Because it makes a woman filled. But As I say this, what most of the guys read is, "So she is saying that the more a man has to fill, the better she will feel". Actually that is not so. Comparing two men with same skills in making love, a decent and well endowed penis definitely is good. BUT... Too much of anything is a waste. If he is bigger than what she can handle, he will simply hurt her instead of pleasing. And about what the previous guy posted, Well there are guys who like giant breasts, and there are guys who get turned on by obese people. So there are always exceptions. But they come under a very small minority, and since many women who desire giant penis are promiscuous and polygamous, you get to hear only from them. So if a woman is asking for XXL, then obviously her vaginal cavity is lose and needs some serious tightening up to do or comes under XXL section, which again is a minority. So decently endowed guys should just stop whining and focus more on how to use what he has rather than felling back to that idiotic vicious circle.
so after reading this I feel...
Ok, so after reading the article I was a little enlightened to the confusion that circulates around, but then with the comments posted by other readers - THAT is exactly why guys get
a) confused,
b) self-conscious / disapointment / doubt,
c) persist in dick measuring contests to see who is more manly (figure of speech, not literally whipping out our c**ks).
d) aware that "some" women are as bad as the stereotypical guy or "jock", point being the number 1 kicker - nervousness around females.
All that can often fall into each other, turning into a vicious cycle.
Sure I can say with some comfort that when I'm fully aroused I can sport a 9", BUT as I am aware this isn't a good thing what so ever!
What I mean is that my partner has complained on numerous occassions that it's too deep & that it hurts her too much. So out of pure respect I slow down and try for a shallow penetration, ie change of position.
But one thing is for certain, I rather have girth over length. So the one thing I want to know is what's the average girth?
There are sooo many factors to be considered when talking about sex:
a) Length & girth size of the penis
b) Depth of the vagina
c) Motion
d) Position - what works to hit the g spot
Those are just to name a few.
Now the important thing; we all have different opinions, and we all have different shapes or sizes - so it's NOT about sporting the goods, IT IS knowing what is good to satisfy your partner, knowing yourself & having the confidence to have any effect in your sex life.
Let no one put you down. Learn, practise & enjoy.
Is this a joke? This is
Is this a joke? This is handled rather insensitively.
The comment replies are ridiculous! To the commenter before me, how do you think you can speak for all women when you say women are lying when they say they don't mind?! I honestly don't mind at all and neither do any of my female friends.
still...
the article's statement is mostly true, still... i did have some really great lovers with smallish penises, and i do remember one pretty bad f**k with a huge member. it's more about the technique and how much a guy is willing to give, no doubt. however, if you put side to side a good lover with a huge penis and a good lover with an average one, all of us would go for the huge! and, if any of you guys actually reading this, when we say to you we don't care about your size, we lie! we absolutely lie! worse yet, when we somehow bring it up ourselves it really means that your size is not big enough for us. and that's the truth, sorry! the size does not matter only as long as we are talking XL vs XXL and so on..
Penis Size
Having and still experimentating whatever sex has to offer, to me size is of a consequence. As I am an oral lover, i prefer the penis I suck off to be of at least a 6 inch length. My hubby knows about my cum drinking tendencies so he actually says that the bigger I can find them the better. He himself has got a 8 inch which has somewhat spoiled me a bit and I have also noticed that men with a big penises seem to have a higher capacity of sperm. Had a experience a few days ago with a black guy sporting a 10 inch and despite the fact that deepthroat was a bit difficult with him (I am used to a max. of 8 inches), I had to get him to ejaculate in my mouth before I swallowed. Fantastic ... I will always prefer big giant penises.
Lizz