Hi nervous, im 18 2 sex isnt that bad at all as long its with right guy. its like all most the best thing that can happen to you. me and my boyfriend always have sex and we love . you will knw when your ready for sex dont rush yourself

Be gradual with your partner! Who says that the first sexual togetherness has to be vaginal intercourse? Why can't it be mutual masturbation, or manual sex or oral sex?

very few people enjoy sex their first time or their first few times, first thing i want to say is don't rush it, make sure you are with a guy that you love, and that he will be understanding if it's too painful but just because the first few times aren't great or even good doesn't mean that you shouldn't do it

its ok to be nervous evryone was when it was there first time.but it all depends on your pain torrance. your first time isnt going to be the best ever it will be a little disforting and werid but after like the second or third time it should get better and be more pleasing for you..but this is just my opinion and the advice i had to give you...
i hope everything goes well for you and remember to use PROTECTION!!!

xoxo

the most likely cause is that you penetrated too deep and hurt her that way. that happened to me once and i just want to stop. but then again...there alot of factors to be taken into consideration.

--Step 0: Preparation. Before you even begin in bed, there is preparation, both for you and for her. Make sure you have a good type of condom to use that suits your needs. Do you need it to be slightly thicker to delay your orgasm? Thin so you can feel what you're doing? That's for you to decide. Do you think you'll need lube?

Then, it's good to make sure the location is good. Is the room clean and tidy? Making the bed and cleaning up beforehand can be important. Does she have a favorite smell or food? If so, burn a candle with that smell, or eat her favorite meal with her beforehand. It's also a good idea to have the condom box already opened, with a condom already torn from the strip, to avoid the clumsy mess of tearing it open in a rush. Once you've got her in your room and it's getting good, move to step 1.

--Step 1: Foreplay foreplay foreplay. Read the foreplay section, both the cunnilingus sections, and the massage sections. Take your time with this step, make sure she's good and wet and you know she wants it. When it gets to the point that she's writhing and just asking for it, pick up your already-out-of-the-box condom and put it on. Make sure you put it on right, and leave a little semen-reservoir at the tip.

--Step 2: Insertion. If you're nervous you'll miss and put it in the wrong hole, reach down with your hand and locate her vagina first, then maneuver your penis down to where your finger is. Push it in gently or you may hurt her. For the first couple seconds, just work it all the way in, then all the way out very slowly, to make sure your penis gets as wet as her vagina does.

--Step 3: The horizontal shuffle. From this point, you'll have to play it by ear. There's no magic formula to please everyone, so just try going faster, slower, harder, deeper, gentler, etc, until you get the response you're looking for. If you did the foreplay right, you should have already figured a bit of this part out. And remember to change up the position a bit every few minutes. Starting off in missionary is fine, but eventually it will get boring. Try it with her on top, or doggy style for some other easy positions.

And the important part to being impressive in bed is to try to ensure that she climaxes. Studies show that 75% of women say they do not have an orgasm during sex. Try to make her a sexual minority ;)

lubrication lubrication lubrication! if your not wet make him get you wet ;) dont have sex if you arent wet.

Okay, so first of all: if you see that he cares for you, that he stops if you ask him to, that he doesn't want anything bad to happen to you; it's a sign of true love. That's what I call the true masculinity. Not drinking like an animal, having 30 cm long penis or treating women like dogs. Caring for the others.
So, about the problem: don't worry about it. Some women may experience the same. The problem is, that the vagina is not wide enough in the first few encounters, but you can prepare for this: fingering! Move your fingers/make your partner move his fingers in your vagina as if you/he wants to widen it. Of course, enjoy it too. Try inserting other thick things into your vagina (clean, non-sugary and non-alkaline things of course) to widen it for the big day (dildo, carrot, banana, etc.). You may also want to try positions where you, the girl, are in total control. Check out the cowgirl sex postitions on this site. Or ask him to do shallow penetration, and get deeper and deeper gradually.
Communication is the key! If it hurts, SAY IT! Communication is very important! Talk with your boyfrien about the problem.
Hope I was helpful.

"The vagina and penis are the main organs to produce pleasure" - That's exactly the statement that makes the sexual life of lot of girls unenjoyable. Because of this misbelief, they have doubts about themselves. They have doubts wether they are normal, or not. Undisputedly, the clit is the main female organ that produces sexual pleasure, NOT the vagina. 60-70% of women mainly reach orgasm through their clit, which is absolutely normal. As someone else here has already written it down, the man (or the woman herself) can pleasure the clit during vaginal intercourse, to help reaching orgasm. Hell, sometimes vaginal orgasm is actually clitorial orgasm, because the clit is stimulated by the back-and-forth movement of the labia minora. I'm not saying vaginal orgasm is impossible, it can be learned with patience and endurance, but don't be disappointed, if you can't learn it!
And Lizz, please don't give advice like "huge, 10 inch penis is the best", or "the vagina is the main source for female orgasm". You'll only do harm with comments like these. Or state the fact, that you are a nymphomaniac, a sperm-addict, an anal intercourse-addict, which are OK if you can live a life like that, but then don't think that the things that pleasure you are general for every women. Sorry if I sound like I'm offending you. I'm not, I just thought it's important for you, and for everyone to know this.
And one more thing: while the ability for the boys to reach orgasm is acquired automatically with the first ejaculation, menstruation doesn't come with an orgasm, so for the girls, it HAS TO BE LEARNED. The surest way for this is through masturbation.

A lot of guys out there worry about this. They take it as an affront to their skills. Unfortunately, they often make a reproach because of this, which can lead to very-very serious relationship-problems. The girl will feel like she is a "handicapped", and she will start to feel embarassed, awkward and inferior.
I know stories where the sex from the girl's point of view always ended in tears. They started having less and less sex, and all of them ended with tears from the girl, and reproach and making faces from the man. Nobody can want that.

Now, here are some biological reasons for this "problem"
1. The function of the vagina is to ensure a channel, through which sperm can get into the inner female genitals, eventually meeting with an egg. Then, after 9 months, the baby has to come out somewhere. Menstruation has to come out somewhere too. Sexual pleasuring can be only tertiary!

2. There are 1000 times (!) more nerve-endings in the clit, than in the vagina. Yes, you've read it right, one-thousand times more. Furthermore, they are concentrated in smaller place. Of course the clit is the key to female orgasm! Moreover, as far as we know, the only function the clit has is sexual pleasuring!

3. Just think about it: if the vagina was as sensitive as the clit, how would a woman be able to stand the pain of birth? They'd probably die.

4. Vaginal orgasm is often related to the G-spot. But! What most people don't know, that not everyone has a G-spot! Well, that's not entirely exact: everyone has one, but the sizes of it are different. The female G-spot is the female prostate. Since this is basically a male organ, it will start to wither. The degree of this will decide if the female prostate will remain big enough to be pleasured or not. It is important to point out, that a woman CAN have vaginal orgasm without a pleasurable G-spot. It CAN ba learned with the Kegel-excersise, but it's NOT something they are BORN WITH.

5. As mentioned above, the vagina is not so rich in nerve-endings. In fact, as we go deeper, the less we will encounter (the cervix is an exception, but that is not necessarily pleasuring). The most of them are at the OPENING of the vagina.

Are you still truly bothered about it? Do you still think it needs to be helped?
Guys, let's not expect vaginal orgasm from our girls. It's like expecting anal orgasm from a boy (which is possible).

For boys, the ability to reach orgasm comes automatically, but for the girls, it has to be learned. So don't feel bad about it, every women who doesn't practice has the same "problem". How to practice? Masturbation! The first orgasm is something that you should experience alone. No don't depend on anyone, so you can take all the time you need (just choose a good place and time, when nobody can disturb you, so you don't have to rush it!).
If the an orgasma continues to be a problem, then there might be some psychological reasons for it. Do you trust him? How much do you trust him? Could you trust him with your life? Do you really love him? Were you raised to think that sexuality is a taboo? Did you have any traumatic experiences about sexuality before? Don't forget either, that it is the clit that is the key to female pleasure, not the vagina!
See the long comments above, they are a bit more detailed.

As we see in this comment, a huge penis is actually a problem. Did you just start having sex? If so, were you fingered before, or did you insert anything into yourself that is wider than a tampon? The most common problem for the girls is not the losing of the hymen, but the unusual feeling of something as wide as an erect penis penetrating them. This can be easily solved, with "traning", namely fingering or inserting dildos. In your case, your problem might be that your boyfriend is huge. It is possible, that he is hitting your cervix with every thrust, which can be very painful. My advice is, train a little when you are alone with fingering, or with dildos, and with your boyfriend, try shallow penetration, or positions where you are in total control (cowgirl for example). You might also want to do the Kegel-excersises, to strenghten your vaginal muscles. And don't worry, your problem can be solved! Optimism is the most important thing when fighting a sexual problem!

it's kinda weird that you feel you need more... at least in my opinion because that never happened to me... but the solution I found was just go at it the first time that day, then wait until you can get a boner again and as soon as you can go at it again. the second time, you'll probably find you aren't getting much pleasure but you take a long time to reach orgasm. My fianc'e had to have me pull out after we did it quite a while cuz her pussy hurt too much ( we were coming up on 45 min i think ). Just repeat that process every day and you'll be having sex for a long time on your first time every time.

Nut #1 will betray you any chance it gets, so my advice is, go jack off and get his back stabbin ass out the way... Cuz we don't be bullshitin on nut #2, you will be able to control it alot easier.