She's Too Hairy!
Q. This girl I have been dating doesn't shave or trim her pubic region and I have been cleaning my area up for a while. How do I suggest she might want to clean hers up to make our sex more enjoyable, or so I'll want to go down on her?
A. Although not everyone shaves fully, shaving and trimming your pubic hair is becoming more of a norm. You are showing a good example by taking care of yourself. Does your girl know you do this – or has she not really noticed? If not, next time you are intimate ask her how she likes your trimmed look. Ask her to help you trim yours; a perfect opportunity to ask her if you can help her trim herself.
Try discussing this tactfully with her - she might just need a little encouragement. Express to her how sexy and attractive you think it might be if you were to both try a trim and/or shave. Talk about it as a mutual adventure and be careful not to imply that you are not happy with her as she is, just that it would be an aid to pleasuring each other even more.
Describe how great it would be for oral sex if you both had less hair in the way; perhaps pique her interest by explaining that it can also make your genitals appear larger and more attractive! Suggest starting out by trimming the first few times, then perhaps moving on to shaving part or all of the pubic area. Consider shaving each other if you find that doing it yourself is monotonous.
If she still seems a little uncertain of how much fun (and normal) this is, bring her to the site and show her our article on Shaving Pubic Hair - also check out the thread on Trimming/Shaving 101 in our Forum.
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I have to kind of laugh at the the comment above. What men need to know is this is not something we (females) learn in sex ed class. I was 40, when the guy I was seeing then told me, he wanted it bald, and I had just givin it an even trim. He was very kind and I can look back and laugh now. There is also a great scene in the Sex and The City movie, with the girls in Mexico, way to funny.
The way I look at it is this, there is nothing my current boyfriend can't tell me. I want to please him (in and out of the bedroom) and I'm pretty sure he feels the same way.
Tell her, she wants to know. And if you don't tell her who is?
How can she be too hairy?
For one thing a woman who is sexually mature has pubic hair. In many cultures worldwide a lot of female pubic hair is considered desireable.
If she she keeps her pubic hair clean, washing it daily, that is enough hygiene. If she has a vaginal infection then she needs to learn better hygiene.
Pubic hair is one of your erogenous zones. Just barely touching her pubes as you run your hands over them can really turn her on. I have been asked by several women to tug their hair during sex, even during orgasm as this increases arousal and orgasmic intensity.
Also if she shaves her pubes you are likely to get stubble burn on your face, if you perform cunnilingus, and on your penis. Rubbing your penis over nice soft puffy, fluffy pubes is HOT!
If she has pubes from hip to hip and you could make a handlebar moustache with them and that is a problem for you you could ask her to trim down to the classic triangle shaped bikini trim. But. I would like to see her before she trims.
Relax. If you are old enough to be having sex you should enjoy it with a grown up woman who looks like a woman, not one who looks like a pre-pubescent girl.