35 year old male virgin

Q. I need helpful advice in two areas. I am a 35 year old male virgin. I am close friends with this 29 year old perky, sweet, and intense babe. I feel more comfortable and nearly ready for sex. We have decided on a weekend of great sex.

First, we meet at her place. We get undressed together. We are completely naked. She wants to spend a half hour or more showing me her entire place. She says she wants to observe three things from me while I am naked - my self confidence, my body language, and how I choose to show her my penis. She says she definitely wants to be impressed with the last. She wants this half hour or so to be about openness and not foreplay and not sex. She wants nothing rushed. Can you help me express myself with naked body language?

Second, after the half hour she wants me to spray her face, breasts, and belly with cum. She doesn't want me to shoot all of my cum. She wants me to save enough cum to fill her vagina with during sex. How do I share so much cum and still stay hard? I would greatly appreciate your helpful advice.

A. While your enthusiasm to plan to fulfil all her desires at your first encounter is admirable, there is such a thing as learning to walk before you can run! She seems to be quite demanding as to how she wants things to progress, especially given that it is your first time together – any your first time with anyone! I presume that she knows you are a virgin?

Enjoy the experience without putting so much pressure on yourself (and from her) to ‘perform’. The good thing is that you both want to take things slowly … so do that, but also allow things to develop naturally and within their own time. Neither you nor she should be discouraged or disappointed if this first time doesn’t go exactly to plan. Good sex comes with time and experience and a positive, caring attitude. Read our articles on His First Time for more on what you can expect.

Your question about “expressing myself with naked body language” is a bit vague. Does she want you to put on some kind of show for her? You need to ask her exactly what she has in mind. Also, when you ejaculate you cannot simply stop in mid-flow and ‘save’ some for later. Once you start to cum you will find it difficult to stop in mid-flow and you are unlikely to stay hard. The good news on Male Ejaculation is that at your age you will probably recover fairly quickly and be able to go again. However, the amount of semen the second time around (within such a short period) will be considerably less than the first time.

Don’t forget to practice Safe Sex … use a Condom; if she is uses another form of birth-control and you want unprotected sex (assuming she is not also a virgin), you should insist that she get STD Testing done first. Sex comes and goes … STDs/STIs can be forever!