No Pre-marital Sex...

Q. My girlfriend and I have been going out for a few months now and we're pretty comfortable with each other. However she doesn't believe in pre-marital sex, but she's open for anything before that, and she emphasizes anything. All we do right now is basic foreplay, what are some things I can do to make it more interesting?

A. By pre-marital sex I am going to assume you mean penetrative vaginal and/or anal sex. You should both check out our editorial Am I Ready (For Her) – this will give her some guidance on how to know when she is mentally & physically ready for that first ‘full’ sexual relationship.

Then both of you should read all of our many articles on Kissing, Foreplay, how to Masturbate Together, Sensual/Sexual Massage … and perhaps the Oral Sex section. Reading these should help her define her boundaries as to exactly what she means by ‘open for anything’ (your interpretation of that will almost certainly be at least a little different from hers). It will also give you loads of new ideas and variations to explore.

If you really want to spice things up, then our Foreplay with Food and Foreplay with Hot Wax editorials should give you even more great ideas to keep you both entertained in the meantime!