12 years in — how do you bring up wanting more?
My husband and I have been married for 12 years. We have a good relationship, we still like each other, we still make each other laugh. But somewhere along the way, sex became this very predictable thing. Same routine, same time, same everything.
I want to change that but I don't know how to bring it up without it sounding like a complaint. He's not doing anything wrong exactly. It's more that we stopped exploring. We got comfortable and now comfortable feels a bit boring.
Has anyone navigated this conversation successfully? How did you start it without your partner hearing "you're not enough"?
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I don't have the answer to this because I never figured it out in my own marriage. But I will say that the fact that you're even thinking about how to bring it up means you care about his feelings. That's not nothing.
If I could go back I think I'd just be honest. "I love what we have but I want us to try some new things." Short, direct, not about what's wrong but about what could be fun.
I'd bring it up playfully, maybe suggest trying something new together. Make it an adventure, not a complaint.
Maybe surprise him with a little date night and say, "How about we spice things up and try something we've never done?
