OP: possible to orgasm just by thinking of sex?

You are not weird and it is not unnatural; however, had I to guess, I'd venture to say that orgasms from pure thought are not at all common.

I am worried that you might very well be confusing love with lust. Your story has more lustful aspects to it than loving components. I sincerely caution you not to get all caught up in a fantasy. This is what the two of you presently enjoy. There is nothing actual and concrete because you have not met and apparently have not talked. Until you meet, you only have his word that he is who he says he is. Many men can and do reinvent themselves with each new person they meet. It is safe, there is slim to no chance of meeting the correspondent and he can build himself up all the while playing to your needs and desires.

You owe yourself a real relationship, whether with this person or someone close by. Have him come to you, first and foremost, then, if he seems genuine and on the up and up, you can consider going to his country, city, neighborhood, and home. (Speaking of which, do not discount the importance cultural differences might play in falling for someone who may be quite different from you.)

My recommendation is to treat these internet exchanges like pen pals. Continue the friendship for as long as it proves beneficial, however, do not fall in love with a figment of your imagination until you know differently.

dancingdoc2

Posted: 23 Sep 09:46

DD2,we have talked for hours on end, honestly and openly about a lot of things most importantly xabout our feelings for each other,our hopes,dreams,fears,common interests..I've been in lust with someone before and what i feel for this new man is far more intense than anything that i've ever felt before,and he is a very,sincere,kind,gentle and honest man from what i've heard.We've even used your little quote about love being about the giving,receiving and sharing of all things.There are cultural differences which he is concerned about,and i am willing to discuss further with him.What started out as friendship,became a fantasy and is now becoming reality.He is planning to come visit me when he gets time off work,and as he is somewhat younger than me,i have in all honesty and compassion suggested that if he meets someone more his own age that he cares about more than me, he should pursue her,and i will sacrifice the deep feelings i have for him and go back to just being friends.He said that he would do the same for me also.This willingness to sacrifce any chance of a future we have together should we meet someone closer to home is much more than lust to both of us.

raunchy gal

Posted: 23 Sep 09:46

Orgasms from thinking of sex is very well possible. Tantric Buddhist moncs were taught to do so by an experienced woman. This was a true training; going from physical teaching to translating it to mental power. And as far as my knowledge; it is done today, but this type of Buddhism is more isolated than it used to be.

Now, some of these moncs are able to do a lot of things (even controlling bodytempetature) so that's not your every day thing ;) Yet: it proofs that it is possible. And it's not illogical, since orgasms are triggered in the mind.

I myself can orgasm from just about anything, but I haven't experienced full orgasm from mere thought. I do have experienced trembles all over my body and pc-muscles by going back to a memory of my most erotic lovemaking. I have these same trembles while actually making love; I call them pre-orgasms or little-ones ;) There's a small release of energy, very pleasing, yet not as powerful as my big o's :o

About your honey; I'm certainly no expert on this, but have seen some friends going on internetdates. I'd also advice you to get him to meet you in a safe place. Safe; being not your or his place, but a place you both aren't attached to. In case things turn out wrong, you don't have to worry about him knowing your address, place you work, favorite place to have lunch, etc. Try to meet him with open arms and mind, that is: not expecting him to be the fantasy of your dreams. Try to look at both his good and bad things without getting (over)enthusiastic or (over)disappointed. Let's call it a "realistic" perspective with a bit of pink shades:
- That will give him a fair chance to show that he's a nice guy (without having to be a match to prince charming).
- And gives you a fair chance of not going head over heels based on poor judgment (instead of being a lamb slaughtered by a wolf in sheepskin).
- Yet: the pink shades keeps your heart/body/mind open and does allow love and other pretty things to happen. (instead of blocking every emotion and not giving you and him a fair chance on anything)

You catch my drift? Not saying this is easy, but stating these intentions prior to the event do help (to my friends it did; one couple being a true match and lived together for 3 years, one didn't match at all, one being creeped out by her date and so happy he didn't know any personal info on her)

In the meanwhile: fantasize all you want! Fantasies are great and can get you anywhere that makes you happy!

RedRoses

Posted: 23 Sep 09:46

Thank you RedRoses,i will carefully consider all the advice you've offered and just enjoy what is in the here and now,rather than putting all my eggs in the one basket.:) I live in a large town close to the big city,so when i meet my man for the first time,i am planning to catch the train,book a hotel room for a few days and show him around a little bit of my world.We still have a way to go because he needs to wait till he has sufficient time off work, and to make arrangements for travel (which shouldn't be too hard because he works in the travel/tourism industry)What we have sounds like the real thing,but i don't want to build my hopes up too much,because i've been on the receiving end of dissapointment too many times already > so your idea of looking through the "Pink shades"seems like an excellent plan to adopt.>Also your description of little o's sounds exactly the same as what i experience.They gradually build from little ripples to bigger currents&waves till i hit the tidal wave and finally the tsunami of O's.??RedRoses are you sure that you and i weren't separated at at birth,because you and i sound so similar in many ways that we could be identical twins, if i only had a sister.

raunchy gal

Posted: 23 Sep 09:46

I am certain that there exist those who commonly reach orgasm through the discipline of various body/spirit movements. It sometimes even happens to us mere mortals in the slog-a-day world.

It is more common that we develop attachments to unknown but fantasized ideals. My sexual fantasies are almost always a partner with whom I wanted to have sex or came close but did not for whatever reason. Rarely do I fantasize with a former partner. Never have I fantasized love with my dead fiance, although he was the finest lover ever. Some how the real or the reality never quite lives up to a lasting ideal. My point? You are approching fantasy orgasm with the unknown;with an, as yet, ephemera. The good is that it enhances your desire to actually meet him; the bad is that you are setting yourself up for disappointment. From Australia, "overseas" is quite a distance. The trip to meet you is not trivial. Make no rash decisions.

Brandye

Posted: 23 Sep 09:47