If I remember right, there is a surgical option other than getting circumsises, where they make a slit in the tip of the foreskin to give it a bit more room. I am in no way a professional though. lol
Lovemonkey
Posted: 23 Sep 06:45
OP: phimosis and ejaculation
Me and my boyfriend have been together for about two yrs and have a great sex life with the exception of him cumming during sex. He has phimosis and Im his first sexual relationship. He says the sex is great even though I have to give him a handjob to finish him off. Hes seen a doctor and was prescribed cream which hasn`t helped much with the foreskin but he does stretch the skin often. Im sure in the future some medical procedure will be an option but for now its not. I`ve tried everything I can think off and asked him what I can do to help. I`ve never had a man not come with me and have a hard time dealing with this. Is there anybody in the same boat or has some medical knowledge ? Please don`t send me the why doesnt he just get circumcised. I need advice on how to make it work now or some kind of insight into the connection between Phimosis and his not cumming. Please help a girl out.
noni grey 09/29/2007
Posted: 23 Sep 06:44
Replies:
* How much effort does it take for him to reach the point of no return via your hand jobs?
* How long does he stroke during intercourse before giving up?
The two questions are related and here's how: First, if you are spending a lot of time manipulating his penis (rubbing, stroking, fingering,) in order to build his arousal to the brink of an orgasm, then the two of you are going about this backwards; second, if he stroking and Stroking and STROKING and STROKING in order to try and get to the point of a climax, once again this is the wrong technique.
The foreskin has a lot of sensitive nerve endings. The glans is richly endowed with lots of very sensitive nerve endings and in fact the glans is far more sensitive and reactive than with men who have been circumcised. This being the case there should not be a major hurdle in getting him off.
Inexperienced fellas nowadays seem to be under the misconception that the way to a great orgasm is by lots and Lots and LOTS of stroking. Wrong. The route is by way of lots of fooling around, making out, and later integrating foreplay into the mix. The intent is to bring him to the brink of a climax by all of these activities, first, so that when intercourse begins, he is already at peak. Stroking simply maintains a preexisting high level of arousal; thrusting, peaks this and helps trigger an orgasm. If you've not been using this approach, then try some more by switching tactics.
I hope this is of help. Got questions?
dancingdoc2
Posted: 23 Sep 06:45
Well Doc accurately gave my input. The relationship between phimosis and ability to reach ejaculation is very different from man to man. There is no real relationship except the discomfort may cause him to withdraw from the pleasure at a critical point.
Brandye
Posted: 23 Sep 06:46
I had a very tight foreskin, and it caused quite a lot of pain during sex - perhaps this psychologically is affecting him and inhibits his enjoyment and resulting orgasms. I was also prescribed the cream for about a month (1% Hydrocortisone if memory serves) and it made no difference to the foreskin. In fact when my (then) Girlfriend first pulled my foreskin all the way down it was like a knife had sliced it - plus I thought it was damaged! As I'd never retracted it all the way before when erect.
As I say perhaps it's a mental block on his part. My resolution was to be booked in for a circumcision and it was the best decision I made, after the obvious discomfort etc of the procedure and aftermath - it's a complete change in sensation and there is no pain anymore. I would strongly suggest seeking a urologist's opinion.
RayzorSharp
Posted: 23 Sep 06:46
Honestly there is alot of foreplay in our sex life and I do honestly understand that stroking him to the point of chaffing...Ouch! isn`t going to help. He can last for an hour + and says he can have orgasms without the ejaculation. Keeping in mind I am older and have the experience I also understand that sex happens in the brain as well as the body , maybe he doesn`t??? Hearing that there might not be much of a connection does sadden me sum. He does say that it feels great when his forskin is up but when it gets pulled down it is painfull. I`ve also learned that the oils from my fingers burn the head of his penis. His penis has had it`s own protective covering for 24 yrs and I am his first . So how does a girl teach a shy boy about the ride and not the destination???
noni grey
Posted: 23 Sep 06:46
You have confused me; he is an experienced man who can have multiple orgasms and you are his first lover? Men are different in their wiring for sex then a woman....You know all this part. You teach this dude "how to's" for the sake of all women. It's a Mission/Vision & Goal! Go to it, ASAP.
sera300
Posted: 23 Sep 06:47
LOL! Yes I am his first and the first time he orgasmed without cumming he had no idea that he didin`t cum. He stopped and checked because at the time we weren`t using a condom, but I am on the pill. He is very concerned about pregnancy. But he does say he often has the feeling that he came so I go under the assumption that he has multiples as does he. He isn`t tainted by all the sex and relationship crap so I find it hard to be blunt or forward, If he was just some guy from around the way I wouldn`t find it so hard. He`s a good man who wants to please and enjoy it so I want to please him back. Never had this kind of dilema???????
noni grey
Posted: 23 Sep 06:47