OP: Masturbation and Sexual Performance

Get her off first - orally or digitally and do not worry about it. Women understand that first encounters are rarely the guy's best performance. And after once, you have something to discuss. Relax. And prolonged foreplay often ends up with the ejacualtion on the sheets. Nothing wrong with getting yourself off while going down on her and then you each start fresh. I, for one, am most "receptive" immediately following my orgasm. Many women are.

Brandye

Posted: 23 Sep 05:49

Interesting, yeah I was discussing with a friend of mine and she told me that like the foreplay time is her time, then after, she orgasms more quickly when she's penetrated. (she didn't say it like that but that was the gist) Yeah and what I meant by prolonged foreplay is me getting a HJ or some such before i get to dive in per se. A Long time ago i read somewhere that masturbating "a lot" can cause men to P E or can cause a weak or soft erection. Now "A Lot" is a relative term so I need this cleared up. I don't really keep tracks of how much I masturbate. Usually my time on the comp is precious and I use it to render projects or play wow. Plus I live at home so with the rents about its kinda hard to get aroused lol. But since pretty much all I've done for the past year and a half is masturbate or recieve Hand Jobs or Oral I'm just worried about when I'm in bed I'll be like "OMG" *splat* lol something similiar happened once before due to an aggressive girl I was with and I wasn't exactly ready. I dunno maybe I'm over analyzing. I just really like this girl and I want her to be satisfied with all aspects of our relationship.

Sadfase

Posted: 23 Sep 05:49

> I have found a girl and she has brought up sex to me and I've put it off cos I'm nervous. I'm worried that since I have masturbated or been with girls but never got to penetrate them, when the time comes I'm worried i'll P E.

Worry is fine; however, you are your own worst enemy in this instance because P E is a common occurance to most teens and guys up to about their mid twenties and therefore you are robbing yourself of the possibility of some good times, and, establishing a great relationship because your Fragile Male Ego would rather not do anything wrong or less than perfect than attempting to do something at all even if it is less than perfect. As a Ballroom Dance instructor, I know all too well about the male ego.

Ya just gotta know that if the general statistics of P E are correct, other guys and gals while worried and concerned are not letting this one aspect of their life together stop the progress.

You can learn to have mastery over Premature Ejaculation. Please read the following Sticky post:

Squeeze & Training Exercise for Controling Premature Ejaculation

Information is presented on a training technique that with some practice will give you the skills required to control your body.

> I've read the Squeezing theories and such but I'm not sure I understand them.

Have you done a Google search of the technique? There are several sites that describe the squeeze technique in detail. Essentially, your partner will squeeze the shaft of the penis either at the base or just behind the Corona Rim as tightly as she can muster and hold the pressure until the man's sense of urgency subsides. There are two key factors to its success. The first is that he warn her before coasting beyond the point of no return; second, that she absolutely not move the penis while squeezing it as any movement can trigger deep seated nerves and cause him to climax anyway.

The Squeeze technique works well in the here and now and as a backup; the results of the training session will teach you to recognize and associate those sensations that preceed a climax and to keep a portion of your conscious mind atuned to what is happening with your arousal so that you will not give into your desire to just let things happen, or worse as is the case presently, to have an orgasm sneek up on you and not being able to stop it.

> Would prolonged foreplay help me last longer during sex? I have a short cooldown time.

This is an excellent question. One has nothing to do with the other. Actually, I have written quite a lot about the art of making out and orgasms in general. Please read my Sticky posts on these matters.

Spending a lot of time making out in general, even before getting to the Foreplay stage is very very important as it pertains to building our arousal and excitement and readying us for intercourse. You can think of P E as a sort of lack of communication between mind and body. The skills learned in the training exercise give you the skills to remedy this situation.

Even after you have acquired the skills required to control P E, know that it can visit any guy on a temporary transitory basis throughout his life. So, please to not worry needlessly. Doing so paralyzes any hope of having a productive relationship. That being the case, why wait until your twenty five or older when the two of you can work together when the time comes to provide the control you need.

dancingdoc2

Posted: 23 Sep 05:49

::: Dancingdoc2

I agree I think I may be worrying too much about this and psyching myself out lol. I've read a couple of the help articles about massaging the lowerback and I'm going to post a question in another forum... ANYWAY

The thing is, I would rather her NOT know about my P E. While this exercise probably works with couples who understand each other and are maybe a little more comfortable with each other. We are a fairly new couple and she's assured me that first time experiences with one another are usually awkward. She is 3 years younger than me and although he patience and understanding in me wanting to wait a little while before we jump into it, is commendable. But that makes me think that this is getting built up and she wants a stallion you know. If anything I'm about to ask is rhetoric just send me to the stickies I'm pretty sure I've read all the ones pertaining to my situation but I have to ask...

Is there anything I can do like maybe not masturbate? Or Masturbate right before? Diet? Work out? lol. The squeeze technique might come into play later when I'm a little more secure in our relationship

fragile male ego FTL lol thanx

Sadfase

Posted: 23 Sep 05:50

> Is there anything I can do like maybe not masturbate? Or Masturbate right before? Diet? Work out? lol. The squeeze technique might come into play later when I'm a little more secure in our relationship

Did you read the Sticky post on P E? How about any pertaining to the Squeeze technique? The common theme to both is in squelching the sensations that immediately preceed an orgasm by recognizing what they are and then being able to manage them as in the case of the exercise. The squeeze just circumvents the sensation by use of distraction. Either way, the common denominator is the feelings associated with an orgasm.

Diet won't help
Work out won't help
Masturbation works some of the times but isn't too reliable. Masturbating before intercourse just helps a guy last longer, and does not keep you from climaxing if you've gone too far.

dancingdoc2

Posted: 23 Sep 05:50