If the condom broke once, you might have had a bad condom. But you say that the condom has broken at least twice, and that sets off alarm bells. I'm sure there are other threads around here that talk about condom use, but the common reasons for recurring condom breakage, especially with young people, are:
1. He's pulling it on too tight, and not leaving room at the tip. Leave room.
2. The couple is using an oil-based lubricant, which slowly disintegrates a latex condom until it can easily break. Use water-based lube only.
3. The partner being penetrated is too dry and the friction is too much for the latex. Use more lube.
4. He's using more than one condom at a time. Big no-no because the friction of the two condoms can wear out the latex of one or both.
Suggestions:
1. Don't stop using male condoms even if she starts using another form of contraceptive. HIV and most STIs are preventable with consistent and proper condom use. Contraceptives will only take care of the unwanted pregnancy risk, and won't prevent HIV (herpes, gonorrhea, chlamydia, syphilis, hepatitis B, HPV, etc.)
2. Try larger size condoms, and keep them away from heat until you are ready to use it.
3. Keep a packet or two of water-based lube nearby in case s/he gets dry.
Finally, the chances of an unwanted pregnancy is pretty unpredictable statistically. It depends on how close it is to the time she ovulates and also the quantity of semen ejaculated inside her or very near the vaginal opening.
Even though you wear condoms, it's a good idea for extra safety to pull out just before you ejaculate. You will have to withdraw immediately afterwards anyway, so why not improve your odds dramatically by pulling out before? I guess it depends on how much you want to prevent a pregnancy.
Same is true with condoms worn for HIV prevention. The female condom is the only condom that doesn't require the guy to pull out immediately after ejaculation.
BTDTWoman
Posted: 29 Sep 20:49
