Condom Ripped - In a panic!
I was having sex with my girlfriend after warped tour with an ultra thin trojan condom that they gave out for free (Baaad idea - probably have been out in the sun in bags all year!) And well, it ripped. For the first time in my life. To add to that, I didn't realize so until after I ejaculated. In terms of pregnancy chances etc, I would like an honest assesment based on these conditions:
1 - I was penetrating deep and havent orgasmed in about two days, probably a considerable amount of semen.
Now the mitigating factors:
2 - she didn't have an orgasm
3 - she was on her period
4 - i smoke a substantial amout of pot every day, including a LOT earlier in the day - the boogeyman in high school told me that it's gonna decrease my sperm count.
5 - this is totally based on my hypothesizing - feel free to slap me - i remember learning that sperm is only produced every six weeks or somethign. well, sure i haven't orgasmed in about two days prior, however before that, I would have sex and masturbate a lot, probably averaging about two ejaculations per day in the previous two weeks. how much fresh living sperm could there be in my seminal fluid???
Now the specific questions:
ECP stuff - does it require a script or can i get it at a planned parenthood somewhere?
Can anything else be done to at all mitigate the chances of pregnancy?
What are these chances?
Afterword:
Fortunately, my girlfriend has extra money for emergencies like this, she is 19, an abortion could be feasible and she is not afraid/hesitant about it. I've done google searches on this embarassingly common topic and apologize for seeming trollish and disrespectful for only using this forum without contributing. I would also like to point out that the state of sexual education in this country is pretty terrible. For instance, I read on planned parenthood that about 8/100 single ejaculation attempts result in pregnency during the second or third week of menstrual cycle (e.g. the peak time). Yet all direct FAQ-style answers on sex education material with regard to "risk of pregnancy" issues ALWAYS skirt around straight probabilities and err HEAVILY on the side of "there's always a chance", probably to discourage pull-out birth control, however such ends don't justify not providing more in-depth information.
om3n
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You have said three things, only, that matter:
Condom ripped
You ejaculated
She was having her period
The good news is that during her period is the least likely time for her to become pregnant. If her periods are erratic, there is a higher risk; if perfectly regular, a lower risk.
The rest of your facts are irrelevant. I am glad that you recognize that condoms sitting in the hot sun, even wrapped, do degenerate. The other thing to learn is why we suggest spermicide in the vagina when using condoms.
Brandye
I've been having problems with condoms breaking... is there something I could be doing wrong?
unkown
If the condom broke once, you might have had a bad condom. But you say that the condom has broken at least twice, and that sets off alarm bells. I'm sure there are other threads around here that talk about condom use, but the common reasons for recurring condom breakage, especially with young people, are:
- He's pulling it on too tight, and not leaving room at the tip. Leave room.
- The couple is using an oil-based lubricant, which slowly disintegrates a latex condom until it can easily break. Use water-based lube only.
- The partner being penetrated is too dry and the friction is too much for the latex. Use more lube.
- He's using more than one condom at a time. Big no-no because the friction of the two condoms can wear out the latex of one or both.
Suggestions:
Don't stop using male condoms even if she starts using another form of contraceptive. HIV and most STIs are preventable with consistent and proper condom use. Contraceptives will only take care of the unwanted pregnancy risk, and won't prevent HIV (herpes, gonorrhea, chlamydia, syphilis, hepatitis B, HPV, etc.)
Try larger size condoms, and keep them away from heat until you are ready to use it.
Keep a packet or two of water-based lube nearby in case s/he gets dry.
Finally, the chances of an unwanted pregnancy is pretty unpredictable statistically. It depends on how close it is to the time she ovulates and also the quantity of semen ejaculated inside her or very near the vaginal opening.
Even though you wear condoms, it's a good idea for extra safety to pull out just before you ejaculate. You will have to withdraw immediately afterwards anyway, so why not improve your odds dramatically by pulling out before? I guess it depends on how much you want to prevent a pregnancy.
Same is true with condoms worn for HIV prevention. The female condom is the only condom that doesn't require the guy to pull out immediately after ejaculation.
BTDTWoman
Your body is making sperm every second of the day.
It is possible for pregnancy to happen from sex during her period.
As to the real medical advice, your gf should go see her doctor ASAP to talk about emergency contraception. The details of how to get it vary depending on the laws in your area.
moose_hd