First, wait until you have married him to have sex with him.
You should talk to him about stimulating him post orgasm. A lot of guys with writh because it is uncomfortable, maybe even a bit painful, but kind of erotic. I actually like it, but I am not as sensitive as I am the time I had my wife first try it on me.
Post-orgasm intercourse is fun. Full body contact makes 'taking it' more erotic and tolerable, but if you want to give him the full over-stimulation experience, hands are the way to go.
Use a good lube, not saliva. Not semen. Semen is sort of dry and gritty and can irritate the head. It's best if you can get him to ejaculate in some position where it will not get all over his head. Penis facing down works, but that's hard to do. My wife and I have a plastic mat made of the material used to cover furniture. She points my penis toward my belly to get the ejaculate on the mat before proceeding with the post ejaculatory torture, as it is called. A wet wipe to get that little bit of semen on the tip off before proceeding can also work.
Lubes can be a water-based lube. I usually use generic that is like K-Y with a squirt bottle to squirt water on to keep it slick enough. Lots of coconut oil can work, too. Lube applied before handjob begins.
If you are going to torture him by stimulating the penis post-orgasm, you'll need to tie him up first. I've got some straps that I made out of a roll of velcro with carabiners and key rings in the middle. One side is fuzzy velcro. The other is pokey velcro. Attached the ring in the middle to rope or twine. You can run the length of the twine under the bed and tie it to a strap on the other side. Wrists strapped to thighs can work.
Okay, so first start by getting his permission. If he's interested in feeling what it is like to get stroked after orgasm, he can agree to being tied up first, and also how long to continue. You can negotiate to agree until he loses his erection or set a certain period of time, say a minute or two post orgasm, or five, or whatever.
Then give him a hand job. Edge him many times. Make sure he's strapped before he has an orgasm. Then, how do you play with him?
You want to keep him erect so you can 'torture' him longer. You can do this by making a ring out of your thumb and forefinger and holding the base of the penis tight. You could also use a penis ring, but it may make the sensations more unpleasant.
You can play kind of nice and mercifully, or play cruel. It's best to mix him up. If you don't overstimulate him some, what's the point? Merciful is stroking from the base of the penis up to the 'neck, the frenelum. It might be a little sensitive and difficult to take post orgasm, but it is kind of nice. Cruel is playing with the penis head. If he's uncircumcised-- I have no experience with that-- but you might need to retract the foreskin for this part. Anyway, you can just stroke his head like you are giving him a normal handjob. You could do that, but squeeze harder. You can treat the head of his penis like a ketchup bottle you can't remove, squeezing hard and twisting. You could use your palm and run it all along the front/top part of the head of his penis. He's probably got to be tied down for this to be able to take it.
So you can mix it up. Give him the gentler strokes a few times, then play with the head.
How to talk to him during this time: playful, teasing, giggling-- stuff guys find sexy. It's sexier if she enjoys herself. You could also be compassionate, "I know your sensitive, but I am doing this for your own good. You need the pleasure." "You've got more sperm in there that needs to come out. I'm helping you, Honey. Just hang in there for a little while for me." If he says it hurts or it's too sensitive, you could say, "That's why your tied up, Honey." "But you need it Honey. You need another orgasm." IMO, this is not the time for mean or angry play.
But watch out for cramps. Make sure he's hydrated.
If really want to give him the full experience, you can keep going as long as he's hard. But he may still be sensitive when he's soft, so you could keep playing for a little while after he loses his erection. If you keep playing until he totally calms down, that may be a trick to get you to stop, so you can keep playing for a while after that, too.
He might be writhing in discomfort and have an another ejaculation. You could play with the head a bit harder after the second ejaculation, too, if that works, and see if that can turn into a third and a fourth, etc. Or he may be sensitive for a while, stay hard, but just feel kind of numb and board, and then, as you stroke, start to work up to feeling stimulated again, orgasm again, and you could keep playing after or let him end or whatever.
My wife has played with me like this. I had sort of trained myself to take some stimulation, continuing sex past orgasm, so I could usually keep an erection past orgasm for a while already when we started playing like this. Still, at first, the hypersensitivty was often overwhealming. Nowadays, I often do not experience much in the way of hypersensitivity. I feel a little, sometimes, but I do not have to be restrained.
I ask my wife to do this to me. It's hot when she's doing it and I tell her, "Ooh, the head is sensitive"-- trying to get her to lay off, and she just hammers through and keeps on going. It's fun if she smirks or is playful about it.
Probably for a first go at it, you should ask your husband how long to keep stroking afterwards. Maybe you'll go for a minute. Be fun and flirty during the experience, and he may remember it erotically and request it later. What you may find is right after, he will say he never wants you to do it again. You can tell him to think about it and let him know later. Offer it later. After a while, he may begin to fantisize about it and ask for it, and you can up the duration and intensity.
Eventually, you may be able to get his penis used to staying hard after ejaculation. This is good for the woman-on-top position. I like this kind of post-orgasm play, but I find it hard to thrust well after orgasm. Leg, hip, thigh, etc. muscles feel tired. But in woman on top position, it's no problem. My wife can do a bit of post-orgasm 'torture' if she is on top and tightens up, puts her legs together and does really long thrusts. If she wants to, she can keep going and having sex like that. Usually, though, I last longer than she wants intercourse to last, so staying hard after ejaculation is kind of a wasted talent in some ways.
Posted: 11 Oct 20:59