There is a psycho-chemical explanation for this source of tension between men and women. Men want to roll over and go to sleep while women like to cuddle and play.
The male ejaculation is accopanied by a shot of brain chemicals know as endorphines. These are the chemicals that give great pleasure and are the source of addiction in some people. A large dose of endorphins leaves a man very sleepy and lethargic. Natural.
My fix has been to "get mine first." That is a woman tends to be very receptive right after her orgasm. So when I come I want him in me (vagina or mouth) right now. His seeking his ejaculation gives me the continuing pleasure a woman wants and when he comes and poops out, we are both happy.
If I want more, I continue very slowly and gently. Especially younger men recover quite quickly and are capable of several "cycles" in the course of a love making session. With you, I would just stay quiet, stay close and then address direct, slow, gentle stimulation of your penis.
Talk it out with your g/f and you will both be much happier.
At about your age, a girlfriend and I had a bet on who could bring their date of more between the movie and our curfew. We tied at eight times and that was in less than four hours. I am certain they both slept well that night. She and I giggled into the night and discovered we each had rather red, swollen labia! Her parents walked in when we had a mirror out but we got our long T-shirts down in time.
Brandye
Posted: 02 Oct 22:22
