Why would it be a "warning" for you to want to hold someone? That I find particularly intriguing.
Yes; your gut-feeling is a good giver of advice. But: fear hardly ever is. Unless it's because of a tiger standing two feet away ready to attack, often fear comes with some type of irrationality. If anything; I'd say considering your past with an ex-fiancee, it's your ego trying to resist a situation that resembles previous experience. Once established patterns die hard. Your mind registers a situation that could possibly get you emotionally attached, thus it could potentially get you hurt. And by what I've been reading from you; you were struck very hard. That surely left a deep impression and scar that every fiber in your body wants to prevent from happening again.
Speaking from my humble point of view: I'd say there's nothing wrong with wanting to hold someone. I also don't have to tell you this could be a feeling that passes. The love and infatuation difference EEK usually refers to. You know that. Time will tell what it is you're feeling and what it really is you want with her. Maybe eventually marriage, but it's way too early to worry about that. You know that too. And you will only find out any of this, if you are ready to get past this fear.
How to get past it? How do people get over a fear of water? They admit it. Vocalize and talk about it. Perhaps write things down to clear their head. Ask advice. Depending on the severity, they might try to find a counselor. But ultimately; there is just this huge amount of liquid that needs to be confronted and fear conquered. They either wade in slowly or jump.
Take care now!
Posted: 09 Oct 03:02