As a woman’s sexual partner, it’s important to be able to recognize the physical clues that indicate she’s getting off, such as rapid breathing, flushing in the face and genitals, perspiration, or how ‘blissed out’ she is right around the time that she orgasms; but by the same token, you shouldn’t have to guess whether or not she’s being sexually fulfilled. For the most part, it’s up to her to let you know what works for her - and what doesn’t - and you to be receptive enough to incorporate that into your sexual style.

Every woman is different, and you’re not a mind reader, so if the topic hasn’t come up yet take the guess work out of it and just talk to her! If you have any doubts about her sexual pleasure, bringing it up in a way that is forthcoming and approachable may very well be all the impetus she needs to tell you the stimulation that satisfies and the foreplay that turns her on. If you keep it sexy, say it with confidence, and reassure her that her feedback isn’t going to offend you, she’ll follow suit and give you the honest truth.

There are, of course, a few occasions when any woman might choose to do a fake out rather than come right out and say, “Honey, it’s just not going to happen for me tonight”, such as:

1. She’s not in the right mood to come but still wants you to get off.

2. She doesn’t want to bruise your ego by not coming - which you can avoid by taking the advice in the previous paragraph.

3. She isn’t in the mood to get into, “Why can’t you come? Is there anything wrong?” Sometimes, there isn't anything actually wrong; in order to come, she just needs that right combination of stimulation along with her own mental and emotional readiness.

Your best bet is to not put too much pressure on her to come every time you’re intimate. For many, there isn’t that sense of disappointment if they don’t always climax and, aside from having mind blowing orgasms, women take much pleasure in the many other aspects of sex, such as Foreplay, physical intimacy, and emotional connection. Take your cues from her. If she isn’t prepared to orgasm on a particular occasion, but it’s not an ongoing issue, don’t fall apart over it; as long as she garnered pleasure from the rest of the encounter, let it be.

Posted: 17 Aug 21:00