As with so many things in life, communication is of the essence in this situation. I am not clear if you and your boyfriend have had sex or if you are trying to work up to it. If you are already sexually active, does he enjoy sex or does he also find it uncomfortable? Basically, your boyfriend is telling you that his penis is too sensitive to touch, but you need a lot more information! Does he like other parts of his body being touched? Does he enjoy foreplay? Does he enjoy sex at all? Do all forms of touch bother him (soft, hard, hand-jobs, masturbation, fellatio, and intercourse)? What DOES he like?

Ask him what turns him on, how he likes to be touched, and what his fantasies are. Maybe he likes porn, seeing you masturbate, lingerie, or a sensual massage? Another suggestion would be to ask him to guide the encounter and you follow his lead. However the conversation goes, try to keep it positive and light and let him know that the reason you want to have the conversation is because it is important to you that you are able to enjoy great sex together.

If your boyfriend isn't up for talking about it, or if you leave the conversation feeling like you're still not all that sure how to handle it, an important point to remember is that great sex is built up to by great foreplay. If your boyfriend doesn't like his penis being touched, foreplay may need to be handled a little more systematically, but there is still hope! Great foreplay can start fully dressed, with sensual kisses that start at the face, neck, or ears and head south … or even starting at the toes and working your way up to his member!

Since your boyfriend's penis is super sensitive, this ‘leave the penis until last’ rule of thumb is even more important to follow. When you do arrive at the hot spot, take into account what he has told you (maybe he is more sensitive to soft touch or perhaps he doesn't like it if it is too rough) and get him to help guide you until you get it just right. Remember to communicate with him before, during and after if at all possible; this is the only way you can understand each other’s needs and work towards meeting them!

Posted: 17 Aug 20:26