I used to have the same problem with my boyfriend for a while there, but luckily i didn't have to wait long at all.
My boy was cumming way to quickly and just as he'd come, i'd only just start to climax. Then when he was all pooped out, i'd keep on riding him to satisfy my needs, and i didn't care how long it took, either. He had to adjust from his last sex partner to me.
Much sooner rather than later, he realised he had to learn to control his erection so that i would get just as much pleasure, and to me, this is a REAL gentleman! This is done rather easliy on the guy's behalf (from what i know) - they distract their thoughts away from sex or let you ride them in ways that you feel AMAZING but doesn't feel AS GOOD to them in order to cum. Don't get me wrong, they think it's good, but not good enough (if you get what i mean?).
You really have to speak to your man, the only way to a fantastic relationship is through outstanding communication! Otherwise, you can forget it all together.
Let him know that women in general (esp. at younger ages) need a lot more pre-stimulation. Talk to him about getting him to make you cum a couple of times before having sex, whether it be through oral or masterbation, and make sure you're well lubricated. You can even tell him this during foreplay. Use phrases like "make me cum, damn, you feel good, touch me there". Even when he's touching you down there, let your hand/fingers slide in for a bit of guidance and erotically move his hand/fingers the way you want it to go.
If you just can't cum because it's 'one of those days', make sure you use lubrication. You know, either way, when and how the best way to tell your man is. Just make sure you guys communicate openly and about ANYTHING at all. make sure you both know you's are there for each other ALWAYS! Next thing you know, you'll be talking about things with your man you would never have even dreamt of talking about with the girls!!!
Secondly, "It's all in the mind". If you're thinking weird things and things not to do with the situation, you're not going to orgasm, full stop. You need to emotionally feel in the moment and feel close to your man. Concentrate on what's going on down there and how it feels. Close your eyes and imagine what's happening down there, etc. Just remember to "feel for the moment". Feel close and wanting to be closer.
Position yourself in anyway YOU please. If you can orgasm multiple times, GREAT! Just keep in control until you've orgasmed at least two or three times, then let your man take over and allow you both to cum together! yeh!
Just remember to talk to your man. There's doubt he'll be offended and plus, from that day forward, both you and your man will be having the love making sessions of your dreams!!
Posted: 30 Sep 23:40