OP: comparing anal play with men and women

Personally, I can tell you that I experience all the effects of high arousal up to orgasm through anal fingering.

How the penis or clit becomes erect and the vulva becomes blood engorged, etc are signs of arousal that could occur through the stimulation of any of the various erogenous zones. It could even not be much physical, but through eyecandy or brainteaser. And it's specific to each person which zones trigger best :)

When it comes to anal stimulation considering women; the orgasm or pleasure could be a result of stimulating all the nerve-endings in the anus (about as much as a penis or clit!). Those can simply be stimulated by caressing the outside of the anus. It could be because you could stimulate the gspot indirectly by anal fingering or anal sex. Some women get stronger orgasms through the combination of clitoral stmulation and anal stimulation.

For men; as you've discovered one could stimulate the prostate through the anus, which is a highly arousing zone. For outer stimulation of the anus same goes as for women; lots of sensitive nerve-endings. Because of this physical advantage, men are even more likely to enjoy anal stimulation then women.

RedRoses

Posted: 03 Oct 08:51

im confused about being able to stimulate the gspot even indirectly if the the vagina is in between them. or are is every thing much more closely bunched up together than i think.

as for me and males; like i said i can't twist my hand to stimulate the prostate(oh i wish i could.) my finger mostly just goes in somewhat straight and if i curl my finger then it would curl in the direction of my spine, not my penis and prostate. Is the prostate still being stimulated if my finger is only going in straight?

big916

Posted: 03 Oct 08:52

O sorry, misread your post. As mentioned you could also just get pleasure from the anus being stimulated by itself. You should be able to feel it if you rub the prostate. Perhaps it's easier to position your hand right if you'd get on your knees, put your hand in between your legs and then reach back (bending over if you'd like or just sit up)? I don't have equipment dangling there like you do, but I find it easier to twist my hand like that.

There is a very thin wall between the rectum and the vagina. If a woman would ever let you touch her like this; you will find that your finger in her anus can feel your finger in her vagina and the other way around :) I can feel it with myself, but not that much, because my fingers are fairly small. My bf finds it one of the most extraordinary things to feel.

So; you could not only stimulate the gspot indirectly, but also the a-spot and sensitive area's surrounding her cervix. I must say it differs on my cycle how easy these higher hotspots are to find. I can achieve orgasm within a minute if the positioning is favorable!:o:)

RedRoses

Posted: 03 Oct 08:52

Wow RR,i have never tried that but i must,it sounds fantastic.I must ask my boyfriend if he can stimulate me like that.We haven't had actual sex yet,as he wants to wait to plan a special weekend away for that,but we have been trying other things for the time being.

Aphrodite_66

Posted: 03 Oct 08:52

Try going from under your balls (as if you are imitating a women masturbating).

I have done self prostate massages. If felt great put incredibly uncomfortable afterwards. The benefits did not outweight the problems imo. But again to each their own.

As far as my partners I one wore a double ended cock ring (two vibes. One to stimulate her clit, the other to stimulate me. But I wore it slightly different, and it tickled bother her clit and anus. Never seen her cum so hard or quickly before.

Ducy

Posted: 03 Oct 08:52

yeah RR suggested that too so i will try to see if i can reach.what kind of problems ducy? you mean the feeling that your anus isnt as tight? and whats the name of that cock ring?

big916

Posted: 03 Oct 08:52

I didn't enjoy the entrance or exit of my finger. I had a terrible stomach ache after (felt as if I had backed myself up.) Also I felt as if I needed to use the restroom as I removed my finger. Very awkward feeling.

Ducy

Posted: 03 Oct 08:53

whats the name of that double vibe cock ring that you used?

really?did you go in too quickly? i know when my doctor did a prostate exam it was very uncomfortable. he shoved his fingers in quickly and i couldn't breath for 2 seconds. it is an odd feeling since we don't get penetrated like women do. maybe it was different because i was bent over on my bathroom counter. anyways i massage the outside for a little bit and then slowly move in. i don't even really go that far only just pass the anal sphincter. maybe you did have to poop.

big916

Posted: 03 Oct 08:53

Going very slow is very good and highly recommendable for healthy anal pleasuring! Not just for beginners; every single time. And listening to your body is key. Massaging from the outside relaxes the tissue and it can be a wonderful feeling in itself. Big, if you only just get past the sphincters, I'm thinking you're most likely stimulating the many delicate nerve-endings and that's what is so arousing to you. If you'd like to continue any deeper, just start of exactly the way you do now. You could push a little further when ready. You could even experience that the sphincters start to pulse rhythmically and you'll feel a sucking motion drawing your finger in.

Ducy, a lot of people experience a feeling like they have to run to the bathroom. It's just because your body doesn't know any better than this feeling means immediately evacuating something. Young toddlers start pushing when you put a simple thermometer in there, yet we learn our body that's not necessary. Sometimes you have to do a little retuning. Going extremely slow will help you in this. And to some; the feeling just does not get comfortable let alone pleasurable, then the only logic is to say that anal stimulation is not for you. No loss, accept your body's preference.

Just an idea about the stomach ache; some people experience a bad reaction to the lube. The main cause appears to be glycerin upsetting your system (it's a laxative in itself). If you'd ever like to give it a second try, I'd recommend a glycerin free lube.

RedRoses

Posted: 03 Oct 08:54

I had gone slow. In fact the second time I tried it, I was doing it while masturbating. It was still uncomfortable. As far as the restroom, after horror stories of friends trying anal with their gf's I made sure I used it before hand. And the lube, I've used KY Intense, Astroglide, and then whatever lubricant was on the Trojan Supras.

I may try it again one day but with the way my libido has been going, I doubt I will be trying it for a while lol

Ducy

Posted: 03 Oct 08:54