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OP: Why are woman so heartless?

Can someone explain to me why there is so many evil women out there? Why do women hurt guys feelings? It seems like they do it for entertainment and do it because they enjoy it. You know, women who use guys for money and sex. Women who are always agressive and short tempered to men all the time. I just never understood why women would do such a thing. There are slutty women out there who will constantly cheat on men. Why? When you go out with a new woman, she's always flirty with other guys around her every where we went.

Like for example, I dated this one girl in the past and while we walked around the malls (we were alone at first just me and her), she flirted with just about every guy that walked by her. Plus, she had another guy with her that was walking around with us. She was kissing him, hugging him, and giving him massages right in front of me. That was the worst night of my life. I didn't say nothing to her and just walked away so I got a ride back home with my father (I don't drive for personal reasons). Called my father up and said I'm ready to come home. I didn't say goodbye to this girl, I just left her. Then the next day after that, I dumped her, called her right up and said, "We're done" and hung up. Never talked to her again since then.

I know, these are the kind of women I stay away from, but every time I date someone new, I always end up with a woman who do this sort of stuff. We men give the women all they want and later the women admit they used you for the money and their own entertainment.

Now you all can see why I haven't lost my virginity yet (since I'm now 27) because I'm not going to lose it to some stupid girl like some of the ones I explained above. I've ran into a lot of these type of women so I got tired of it and decided to stop dating for a while.

Since I'm now ready to start dating women again, I'm going to make sure that she won't be like this. I'm going to make sure I find a girl that will like me this time and respect me of who I am. I want her to think of me as a real friend. I am no human ATM machine.

Can someone explain to me why women would do such things? Use you for money. Use you for sex. Flirt and cuddle with other guys right in front of her face.

In my opinion, I think some women do this because they do enjoy the attention of making other guys jealous. I think it's their way of warning other guys that they are the type of girls who like to sleep in bed with other guys (but not at the same time).

I know all women are not like this. One day I will run into a woman who will respect me as a human being.

You never see men hurting the women's feelings. Men do all their best to try to be their friend. It just very hurting for guys and it's unreal that women don't care for men's feelings. The games that women play is absolutely childish. Men are human beings too and we would like to be treated like one, we do not like to be treated like garbage.

Women in these boards, please do not take this personally. I'm just trying to get something off my chest. Feel free to discuss. Thanks for reading!!!

Greendale

Posted: 01 Oct 21:19

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Greendale that was very sad and I am very sorry that your expierences with women so far have been so negativre. I can assure you that not all women are like that. I know I never was.

I have had just as bad of a time with some men in my life as you have with women.

I sense a lot of anger and resentment towards women. And while that may be justified I would hope that you don't approach women you meet with this feeling and that it shows in the way you treat them.

You do seem to pick women that are immature in how to have a relationship. Which is a two way street of respect and giving to each others needs and feelings.

Dr. Phil is very fond of saying that we teach people how to treat us. So I would ask you to fully examin your ownself and see what you may be putting out there that lets women think they can use you like that.

I have a natural tendency to be a people pleaser and it use to be very hard for me to say no and I would let guys use me. Same thing with you and girls. Learn to project what you want and expect. Do this with kindness but be firm.

Good luck in finding someone that will treat you the way you deserve.

Tessie

Posted: 01 Oct 21:19


Thanks Tessie, that's a very good post.

One day I will keep a steady girlfriend for a long term relationship.

I think the reason I keep choosing the wrong women is that these women think they can do what they want with me. In other words, I've become an easy target. I'm a very nice guy who is quite at times. Maybe's that why.

So before I ask a woman out, I'm going make sure I know her well enough first. Maybe that's another reason I keep running into the bad women. It's because I barely knew them when I went out with them.

If I slow down, take my time and get to know her really well long enough first, then I'll think it's a woman I'll trust. I just figured it out now that I thought of it.

Besides, the women I went out with in the past, I didn't ask them out, they are the ones who asked me out. So the nex time a girl asked me out, I will refuse until I get to know her well enough first. It's better to go out on a date with someone when you know her well enough first. I think that's my problem.

Greendale

Posted: 01 Oct 21:19


Those are good points you made there. Also remember its fine to go out and meet different women but guard your heart. I know that with nice, quiet guys they tend to also be romantics and you have to be careful that she is worthy of that.

And be open and honest at the same time. Tell a woman what you are looking for and what you expect. There are nice women out there that would just love to have a guy like you.

Don't give up on us just be very careful. Take it slow like you said and build a real friendship. The best relationships are when you can be both friends and lovers.

Tessie

Posted: 01 Oct 21:19




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