Be honest but in a way that doesn't make it sound that she looks old or horrible. Just tell her that the glasses don't compliment her gorgeous eyes as much as they could & that you LOVE her hair a certain way...this way you're not saying "I hate your glasses & your hair look's horrible".
You want to approach this w/ a very sensitive tongue.
Now about the weight thing, I can relate. I too have a weight issue, I was about 50lbs overweight when I met my husband & now I am 100lbs overweight but that's because I had a baby 1 year ago & I am pregnant...again. It's hard to lose weight when you're expecting.
My husband has gained weight, he also no longer works out in the gym. I guess I don't mind it b/c I am gaining too so I feel not so alone, selfish yes, but it's true.
If your wife didn't just have a baby or isn't pregnant, perhaps it's time to join a physical activity TOGETHER. Start walking every day after work or dinner as a couple. Do it daily, make it a routine (or morning, which ever is better for your schedule).. Start eating REALLY healthy, she'll join in on it, drink lots of water & make comments about becoming healthy as a couple, not just for her. Don't let in that you're trying to change her, b/c you'll only make things worst.
After this happens, perhaps join a gym together or do more physical things together then be sure to compliment her every step of the way. If you give someone praise when they are making progress they'll want to hear it more & continue that.
I am guessing that your wife doesn't have much self esteem therefore has no reason to do anything positive & you just looking at her in a way that is less than loving (as your discussing here on this forum) is going to come across to her even if you don't think you're doing that.
It's an issue that is far more deeper than a hair cut & glasses. If you're not willing to help her, be her coach & support system, this is not gonna work & chances are she's going to allow herself to gain more weight & not care about your thoughts.
Posted: 07 Oct 00:08