Well, DNA seems to create more than just inheritable decease or that it defines your physical characteristics. It seems to also have influence on things as the kids' maximum capable intelligence, personal characteristics, etc.
I think that when a child is so much desired, it is being born from love. No matter how it was conceived.
I can imagine the men do not agree. There could be a kid in 20 years showing up on your doorstep at the most inconvenient of times :eek: And it also seems particularly unfair that they only have this duty, but no rights. They say these rules are for the sake of the children. I think they would have been far better off to state that children of whatever age in emotional distress, can apply for the contacts of their donor at the court. You don't go through such process, unless you'd really need to know.
IVF vs insemination
Just to make it clear, the clinics do not operate by IVF, unless you'd need it. IVF basically means something like "conceiving in glass", in which sperm and eggcell are put together outside of the womb and then put inside. This also mean they "jiggle" the ovaries for eggcells prior (hormone-therapy and such prior to that). That's usually for women who experience decreased fertility.
So, what the doctor does for you is about the same as you'd do at home or a little step further. They inject the semen close to your cervix and then put a little cap in (so that it doesn't run back out). Or inject it just passed the cervix, into your womb. Not as costly as IVF, nor as heavy on the mom, though the doctor's pay-check will off course be considerable for these few minutes ;)
Differences between clinic or at-home
Because of insurance, you as to-be-parent(s) will be presented with only a fraction of costs. For the to-be-parents, it's likely more costly to handle this business themselves, if they'd want check-ups on inheritable decease for instance. Payment? I don't think official donors here get any payment for it, perhaps the costs of travel... It's charity, no job. On informal basics, quite a chance there is money asked. On the sperm-stores, I'd expect the men to get paid ;)
Another difference would be that this semen is washed and diluted, frozen and defrosted when needed for the procedure. They check for inheritable decease and transmittable decease through the semen, such as HIV. For which there are also standardized procedures of (random) second check-ups. And donor and wanting-to-be-parents never get introduced.
When you play it the informal ways, you miss the official check-ups. You get fresh semen straight from the source. And; you do get to meet and perhaps even develop a sort of bonding with the donor. As the donor does with you. This may be either advantage or not.
Also; it poses the same threat as dating online. It attracts people that claim to be someone else than they are. I've read about a couple who had to get rid off 2 stalkers, of which the second became a threatening and stressful situation.
Getting a surrogate mother is a very difficult procedure as well. Even more so difficult; since you're asking 9 months+preparation of someone! Which is why there are now such creative constructions arising, as mentioned above with co-parenting.
Posted: 30 Sep 20:01