OP: Straight guy, got head from a guy, now can't enjoy gf as much...

Just a thought... do you realize you're cheating on your girlfriend with this guy?

monie

Posted: 30 Sep 05:30

Yep what monie said, sounds like your cheating. No matter what sexual act you're doing with someone else behind your girlfriend's back, that is cheating. So you're screwed.

And to answer the first question, it doesn't qualify you as gay if it's just a blowjob by a guy nothing more. All it is just oral sex. Lots of straight guys out there kind of do things like that when they watch porn together 'cause it's their way of getting off.

Greendale

Posted: 30 Sep 05:30

"sexual relations" include more than just intercourse.

and the technical def of homosexual is prefering sexual relations with someone of the same sex, and of bisexual is enjoying relations with both sexes.

i'd say you're bi probably.

and like the other two have said, you're cheating on your girlfriend. cheating is wrong

vagabondprince

Posted: 30 Sep 05:30

Not that anyone would ever think this is a fairly conservative forum!

I think you've answered your own question about the gayness of it.

It's technique.

If it was a woman living across the hall and she had this guy's technique, my guess is you'd be knocking on HER door multiple times a day as well. (And probably not posting a question about it. LOL)

You say you're not attracted to guys... that would be a necessary component of being gay or bi, I'd think. You've found a sex machine.

I'd suggest you figure out what it is about this guy's technique that works and start teaching it to your girlfriend! That'll make everybody happier!

WallyLlama

Posted: 30 Sep 05:30

Like the others said, you are cheating. I know that isnt what this post is about, but you shouldn't just let things like that happen- especially multiple times a day.

I would say that you could be considered bisexual if you will let a guy give you a blowjob. If your open to the idea of another guy getting you off, you are most likely in some way attracted to it. If you weren't you probably wouldn't have gone back after the first time it happened, or it wouldn't have happened at all.

I would not say your gay unless you suddenly completely switch over to guys, which is not a bad thing, but I'd consider that you first do something about your girlfriend. Maybe break up with her, or stop seeing this guy..

Nothing pisses a girl off more than cheating except you cheating on her with a guy! then she feels like not only are you not getting it good enough from her, but that she's so bad she's turned you to guys...

i just fall

Posted: 30 Sep 05:31

Plus, you wouldn't realize how piss the girl would be if you told her the truth about having the guy give you a blowjob. If she is happy with it all of a sudden and if she finds it a turn on, then you may be lucky enough for a threesome if the guy that give you a blowjob is bi as well. Lucky you.

But if she's pissed, she'll probably dump you. So the best thing to do is make your choice. Go with the girl or go for the guy. You can't have two things at the same time. You also have to realize that the guy is just using you for sex since you allowed him to do it, you became a target for him, he's now thinking, "hHmmmm, now I can give him a blowjob anytime I want now". That's why he allowed you to go down to his apartment to get blown any time you want.

So make your decision.

Greendale

Posted: 30 Sep 05:31

Bi.

No shadow of doubt here.

The last man to touch my dick, other than my good self, had a degree in Medicine. One of the guys we all go drinking with has a Napoleon complex about bigger guys like me, and when things get especially raucous he'd grab my crotch.

However, I've told him in no uncertain terms that the next time he does it, hopefully on CCTV, I'll sue him for sexual assault to head off his own legal action AFTER I've castrated him off-screen.

On a lighter note, don't feel too guilty about all this. However, I do feel you should own up to yourself about your feelings first, and that is much more important than owning up to your girlfriend. Once you know where you stand, you can tell her where she stands.

I know this is all confusing for you, but try to set your mind to making the effort to make sense of it. I have long suspected that bisexuality is far more widespread, albeit surpressed, than anyone believes. I think up to a 1/3rd of all men would be bi if they lived in a culture that encouraged multisexuality, not simply tolerated it.

I myself am a committed hetero - and a Christian. I admit I take a less than positive view of two men together, but also readily admit to being incredibly turned on by two WOMEN being together. The implication here is that you should do good within your abilities; if that sounds like I'm moralising with you, I am. I don't believe homosexuals should try to curtail themselves; but at least, be honest with this girl. And to do that, you need to be honest with yourself.

Well, off you go. You have a bit of work to do, and I wish you speedy hands and mind to do it.

Jaybee.

Posted: 30 Sep 05:31

Maybe you could send your girlfriend to your neighbour for lessons?

oberon

Posted: 30 Sep 05:32

LMAO Oberon! That was my exact thought too

I happen to agree with Wally in that I wonder if it had been a girl giving the mind blowing blow job would you have these same concerns with being gay. Not that you couldn't be some form of bi. There are like a tons of different ways people enjoy sex with people of the same sex.

I won't go there with the cheating. I think that one was done enough.

Tessie

Posted: 30 Sep 05:32

Ok...i'll pass on the "cheating" comments, since my esteemed co-users have covered that point.

Now, remember, i'm the guy who's gay, was married for 12 years, has a 14 year old son, and didn't really come to accept or even know i was gay till about 9 years ago! Ok....that said.

There's a joke we tell among many of my gay buds: "Whats the difference between a str8 man and a bi man? A 6-pack of beer! haahahha

Yes, booze CAN often cause us to lose alot in inhibitions....but rarely to the point where we will do things we have an overt dislike for. So, does that mean that there's a chance you have had bi/gay fantasies...yes. Does it mean you're GAY? No. That said...must ask you to be honest about your neighbor:

How long have you known him before the party?
Did you see him with female dates often? Ever?
Were you socially friendly with him before the party?

THere IS a chance that your first bj from him was all about alchohol and opportunity......but the fact that you both are getting sexually active on a daily basis tells me that you're both a bit more into man2man activity then you may have thought. Now, i have been there, so i know you're just trying to rationalize how you can just get your dick sucked and go on with your normal str8 life....and u can for a long time...but trust me...there will come a time when you will have to look deep inside and be honest with yourself about your sexuality.

My advice is kinda off the wall..but, here goes:

1) Tell you GF that you want to just date..that you're not ready to be totally committed to a relationship at this point. No need to tell her about the bi activity at this point. If she will still be open to dating you....then you will have to discuss the reality of safe sex and how you have or will have sex with others (just part of dating in today's day and age).
If she says she only wants a long-term relationship with you, then you may have to just break it off.
2) You need to explore your sexuality. Since you already have a sexual relationship with your neighbor, you might want to just take it to the next level and try it all. Thats right.....talk to him about trying more. You should suck on him..and explore your sexuality (safer sex please).

While i've always said being gay is NOT about sex.....for many men - like me - most awakenings of our sexuality happen during random acts like Terrence's.

So, find out. IF you keep going to him for sex, you probably WILL progress to more and varied kinds of sex with him (or other guys)...so you owe it to yourself and your future partners - and your mental well-being - to figure things out.

Now there may be some who say, hey, it's just a bj and yes he's cheating..but if he were single it's still just a bj. Well, yes, but here's the HUGE difference in what you're doing...you KNOW he's a man..you KNOW you're a man ..you KNOW you like what he's doing for you and you keep going back for more. Clearly you're comfortable with whats going on mentally to the point that you go back many times.

I think you do need to at least break it off with you GF or tell her you want to date others....no sense in potentially hurting her!

Rawbob

Posted: 30 Sep 05:32