OP: Bi-Curious

My wife and I have been together for 15 years and getting ready to celebrate our 10th wedding anniversary. We have had conversations in the past that she has bi-sexual tendencies. I am completely fine with this, but when the conversation turns to men being bi or bi-curious she says there is still that stigma. How do I tell her that for the past 5 years or so that I am curious? I love my wife, and want to stay with her forever, but at the same time, would love to be able to explore this curiosity to see if it is just a curiosity, or if I am in fact bi. I do find occasionally watching mmf bi porn rather exciting and wonder what it would be like. Help me please, any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Posted: 16 Apr 13:38


Is her stigma about You being curious? Maybe more talking is needed so that she knows you share the same curiosity's. Maybe work towards watching gay porn together will open the conversation.

Posted: 16 Apr 19:29

Well I told her, and she cried. We talked about it for a bit, I told her that I don't understand it, or what it means. I told her that I still love her, and still want to be with her both as her husband and as her lover. There obviously is a lot more for us to talk about, but as of this moment my marriage is still on.

Posted: 17 Apr 02:32

So I have another kinda question or whatever regarding this. So my wife said that if I wanted to explore/experience this that she asked that I talk to her first so that we can figure it out together. So we are planning to talk about it a little more tomorrow. I did tell her today that this is something that I want to experience at least once, but that means I would have to ask my wife to allow me to be intimate with someone other than her, which my wedding vows said I wouldn't do.
I don't know if I would want her there/or a part of it. If I did, then that raises a lot more questions and all. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I was a member of this site years ago, but lost my I'd so having to start over.

Posted: 18 Apr 02:35

Wow, where are all the readers?
IMO, you have already broke the ice by telling her. The subject is open so let her know you would rather her not be there. In doing so, you also can expect the same from her if she wants to be alone when she finds a female to be curious with.

Posted: 18 Apr 13:14

I am fine with her being with another woman, I am of the opinion that we all have our preferences and such, but at the same time, I think that this would be a great thing for us to share. I mean if we are both bi, to be able to share those experiences together sometimes. I do know from our talks though, she doesn't have the desire to be the one to so much do the touching to another woman, but more the one on the receiving end of the touches

Posted: 18 Apr 16:02

Ok some more developments on this. After having frank conversations with my wife, I have realized a couple of things. First that anal contact does not interest me at all. The thing that does is receiving oral. I am glad that I have a wonderful wife to discuss this stuff with.

Posted: 18 Apr 18:50

Great to see communication working!

To be honest, I would be a little freaked out at first if my bf brought it up... Not having the body parts required to compete and all... but I'd like to think that I would come to my senses and realize that we're all curious about many things, and then be happy that we have a relationship where we don't have to hide things from each other.

Although you mention that anal doesn't interest you - if you were curious, pegging with a strap-on is something she could do.

Re the blow-job from a man... One of my ex's once had a situation in Amsterdam where he accidentally picked a tranny... and said it was the best blow job he ever had... up until she/he asked "do you want to fuck me, or me to fuck you?" Not really understanding the question, he replied with a puzzled look on his face... to which she/he pulled over her panties and a relatively large cock swung out. He came out with a much clearer understanding of the song "Basket Case" by Green Day...

Posted: 20 Apr 17:03

I have to admit, the shock of not knowing would throw me for a loop too.

Posted: 12 May 08:09

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