Is watching her not providing the insight needed? Will she let you hold the vibe with her so that you can get a better feel for the finer details in what she likes?
I don't think there really is an answer to what the right way is... Some factors include strength / setting of the massager, strength of the batteries, her mood that day, her state of arousal in the given moment. On top of that, every woman is different, so there is no one method that will work on all.
My general policy is to start light and slow, mixing in some teasing... and very slowly increasing the massager strength and pressure as her wetness increases. It's easy to add more intensity as you go... but hard to undo the damage to her state if you go too hard too soon.
Posted: 24 Nov 06:07