Women's orgasm is irrelevant to nature while the man's is necessary to propogate the species. Orgasm/ejaculation is almost automatic in the male but not in the female. We must actually learn.
Because of what we are taught or threatened with (nice girls do not touch themselves down there!), many women begin to see sex as bad or threatening or something to be done for the man. As a result, many women never expect to have an orasm and, by god, they do not. Others who try experience failure many times over and eventually give up. Sexual abuse (about twenty percent of all women have been abused) turns many off to the point where sex is only necessary to become a mother. Some who experience vaginismus early, never quite overcome the fear that it will return.
There is some small percentage of women who are physiologically unable to attain orgasm but the vast majority can - if they learn how. Some of us are built such that the proper parts are not easily titillated; others they are too exposed. And many a woman gets so fed up with having her clitoris pounded by a klutz she simply does not want it.
We do know that the earlier a woman begins to masturbate, the more satisfactory her sex life will be later. Rather than encouraging playing with ourselves, we are actually told it is evil to pleasure ourselves. The same thing happens to boys but when enough semen gets backlogged, it comes bursting out while sleeping. Most young men learn that they do not have to wait for nature and figure out how to do it for themselves. There is no such imperative for women and many simply do not know what an orgasm is. I have had several patients in their 30s (and one who was 54) experience orgasm for the first time. This says, keep on trying. The best training for orgasm is done alone and many young women simply do not discover this. I think female masturbation should be part of the health or sex ed curriculum. Try telling a bunch of uptight religious that!
Great question never asked here before. Thanks for asking!
Brandye
Posted: 23 Sep 23:22