Absolutely. Haven't you heard the saying that "men need constant attention"? Perhaps this is what was meant by that.
A. Erections come and erections go. This is normal
B. Erections come at the very thought, sight, or smell of something erotic
C. Erections do need periodic to full time fondling in order to maintain
If you or your girlfriend are expecting your erection to last without any further stimulus then one or both of you are misinformed. Very often nowadays guys operate under the misguided misconception that the best way to a climax is from lots and Lots and LOTS of stroking and thrusting.** WRONG. The best way to a climax is from lots of fooling around and making out, first and foremost. If you want to climax from foreplay activities or intercourse, then begin the final step of the journey by first being brought to the brink from all that the two of you have been doing beforehand. Do not rush the process--or worse, cut it short.
To her benefit and pleasure, the two of you should be devoting no less than half an hour to kissing and caressing, longer within reason if convenient, in order to build her level of arousal to this level. You will benefit from all this, also. That said, why are you leaving your penis alone during this time? Don't!
Relationships are partnerships and this includes the romantic aspects also. Making love is not what we do to each other; rather, what we do with and for each other in partnership. She should be kissing, caressing, and fondling your body all the while you are devoting your time to her. Because erections are notional and may subside, this does not mean that your love making session is over or that something is wrong. Simply give the penis some time and attention and rebuild your erection. In point of fact, you might let your penis become flaccid now and then purposefully because most women love the power they have over it when they rebuild it and watch it grow in their hands! :D
After each ejaculation comes a refractory period or down time in which the penis does not respond for several minutes. This can be anywhere from ten minutes to half an hour and depends upon the man's age and "wiring". If you are just losing an erection from lack of attention and it is taking this long for an erection to return then my guess is that the two of you are failing to give it the attention it needs because of some belief that it has failed you. Nothing is further from the truth. So, if you are touching her skin all over, and she yours, then include your penis in all the fondling and kissing and stuff that you do to build and maintain each others arousal.
** When the time is right for your climax by whatever means (Foreplay or intercourse), then make certain you are on pins and needles and at the peak of your arousal yet not quite so close that you lose control moving around and getting into position. Keep in mind that a person's skin is their largest sexual organ and this skin includes a penis and clitoris. Do not expect them to fend for themselves.
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I recommend that the two of you read every article in the Index at least twice, discuss what you have learned, and add the information to what each of you already knows. Knowledge is empowering and from what little you have given us, it would appear that the two of you need more information. Next--practice, practice, practice.
I hope this is of help. Got questions?
-doc
dancingdoc2
Posted: 23 Sep 05:00
