OP: Is Blue Balls a real condition?

> We kinda want to know in the man's mind what happens if we give a man blue balls one too may times.

You will probably find yourself looking for a new boyfriend/fiance/husband!

The two cases of BB that I've experienced have both been instigated by men--never a woman.

> Interesting topic came up between my female friends. So, we'd like to know if it's a bad thing to leave a guy hanging. What we mean by this is, you get all hot and heavy, you are busy with foreplay with a man to the point where you know he is rock hard...and then for whatever reason, you just leave him hanging with no method of release.

Ya, we know what you mean. This is the stuff of male nightmares. I've never heard that the condition is dangerous, simply extremely annoying! There are two recognized ways to make us feel better: First, taking a cold shower; second, masturbation!

> Is this a bad thing?

"Bad" as in dangerous? Not to my knowledge; however, it is cruel and unusual punishment to someone you hopefully care about. Blue Balls can ache for hours until relief is given.

> Is there any real need to torture a man like this? Not even if he deserved some punishment. The first time I experienced it, I was not aware of why it was happening then I figured it out and was really miffed at the guy I had been with! The second time while not planned by me, ended up being a learning experience.

What do you think?

> Is this actually painful??

Asked and answered. The ache is not unlike getting hit in the balls, yes it hurts but for me at least the sensation was more of an intense aching that did not go away until I either j/o or took a shower. (I did one for each occasion.)

If you want to hurt the guy, I believe there are other less invasive short-lived techniques. This is not unlike a person who wants to be spanked. You can do so but do so by pulling your punches.

Questions?

-doc

dancingdoc2

Posted: 03 Oct 06:48

That's what I usually do when trying to figure out what something would mean to another person; try stepping into their shoes and have an imaginary walk in them. I'd say it would be just as unkind to stop stimulating a man with no reason, as it woukd be when someone would stop stimulating you, while you're all hot & heavy and suddenly just left to hang in there. As a vivid example of my own: a man who had just come himself, asked me if I had had my orgasm and when my answer was 'no', he simply rolled off me and told me to just handle that myself later(!) cause I had plenty of toys anyways. While my head screamed "What?!", I felt a painful combination of my body going almost completely cold and numb, while my belly felt like it was about to burn and explode!

Maybe that's more an emotional than fysiological response. But I tend to believe both interact very closely. I've actually heard techers and doctors say that 'blue balls' are more of a psycholigcal phenemenon translating into stronger physiological symptoms than the physiology itself would do. Because stress and negative emotions contribute to pain, while relaxation and positive emotions can even make us oblivious of such sensations (or not be translated as painful). I honestly also think the 'want' to have an orgasm counts more than physiology (as I've on numerous occasions experienced a lover happily going to sleep after declining his orgasm. So even though I'm sure there are fysiological differences between male and female anatomy, it may not be that different after all.

Yet; I know women sometimes take another perspective on sex and orgasms and can't imagine the 'want' that men feel. Because they feel orgasms aren't important to themselves to enjoy sex, or perhaps just for the sake of not being able to orgasm or not regularly, they don't see why men should. So if that exact reversed perspective doesn't work for you, you could think about something else you'd really want and get all excited about and then for no reason the other would deny it to you. Let it be chocolat cake if that tickles your fancy :)

RedRoses

Posted: 03 Oct 06:49

Simply stated, yes ...
Many times we have written that the cause of nocturnal emissions (wet dreams) is that men have a need to empty their reproductive systems to allow storage of sperm and semen that is produced from onset of puberty until the end of life. We women have no such physiological imperative. Add to the congestion of semen and sperm getting ready for their day in the sun (?), sexual arousal adds blood rushing to the pelvic area and there is much pressure building up. Lengthy "make out session" can, and sometimes do, leave men with a painful mess that is most easily relieved through ejaculation. Point: men feel not only the "want" they have a physiological need. "Blue balls" is a real condition.

This is not to say that I have been left high and dry (and angry) by two stroke wonders who then pull their pants up and go home. We women are often short-changed; Susan Brownmiller makes the point quite clearly in the epilogue to her classic: "Men, Women and Rape." But what we are left with is psychological and frustration. Men do have a physiological basis for their pain.

If a man leaves me hanging one time too many, it will be our last contact. This is because raised expectations are not met. Add to this a painful resolution phase and the woman is labelled a tease, or worse, and will likely not get many opportunities to correct the faux pas. Pun intended.

Brandye

Posted: 03 Oct 06:49

If I suspected a girl did that to me once on purpose, she wouldn't be seeing me again.

cool macs

Posted: 03 Oct 06:50

I have been married once to the same woman for twenty years and reluctant to JO my sexual needs have been neglected two three years now, I still have desires and erections but my advances being rejected Ive gotten tummy akes and soar balls so the pain is real

Posted: 20 Mar 05:13