Ok, i'll chime in here now! Clearly there is a double standard out there.....but lets keep the core issues separate: Sex and Emotional Bonding.
There's little doubt that our society says its "OK" for 2 women to dance together or hold hands walking down the street, all because of a genuine affection they have for each other, whichin MOST cases in non sexual!
I use the analogy of going to almost any wedding and you'll see many gals up there dancing with each other and having fun. No one thinks twice or says "Oh, they must be gay."
Now, for men, their non-sexual appropriate affection must be confied only to sporting events or other monumental events where the rules of man2man affection are temporarilty suspended. Now, remember, we are talking about the USA here - euorpeans have a much more liberal view of male/male affection.
Now, if you're talking about sexual exploration or actual sexual relationships with folks of the same sex, thats totally differnt. It's almost impossible to separate sex from emotions. So, if you're talking about finding a guy, who can be your "buddy" watching sports or going to a game or to a bar, and also that same guy who's comfortable with being sexually intimate wtih you, is NOT going to be easy to find - but not impossible.
Bisexuality will always be viewed as "having your cake and eating it too." Sexually, while i'm GAY, i COULD have sex with a woman again should i want to. Why? Because being GAY or STR8 is NOT about sex, it's about LOVE.
So, being bi doubles your chances of being able to get laid on any particular nite, but it has never really addressed the issue of "who do you want as yoru life partner - a guy or a gal." I suppose it dosn't really matter in teh big sceme of things, but jsut know that society will always view bisexuality as ALL ABOUT SEX, and someone who's either confused about their overall sexuality or someone who KNOWS they are gay and is afraid of being "out" and so carries on the charade. not my rules, just public perception.
Bottom line is, you'll have to look in the gay and bi websites for guys who are like you. To help you experiment with things both emotinoally and sexually. It's also important to note that there are MANY women who find bi sexual men as being very desireable, so dont' discount looking for a woman who'll suupport your bisexuality!
Feel free to write me directly, having lived both the traditional Str8 life (wife, house, career, kids, etc) and now living a totally gay life (happily in a 7 year relationship)...i have a good insight on such things!
Posted: 30 Sep 23:25