Interesting subject. You're right in assuming there will be different answers, as every woman will experience this differently.
Physiology; Male equivalents to female parts
I guess the comparison to the clitoris and labia would be the easiest to compare. Caressing the labia would likely compare to having your balls caressed. And a clitoris is basically a super-sensitive head of your penis. While boys and girls are still embryos in the womb, these tissues are the same. A penis is basically an over-grown clitoris and your scrotum are the same as a woman's labia put together.
Describing a vagina and beyond is more tricky. Let's start at the parts that have no male equivalent. The cervix is sensitive and though it can be great to have it rubbed (I do, it's like a tiny clitoris inside my belly :)) it can also be downright painful to other women. The womb contracts upon orgasm, together with all those muscles in her pelvic region spasming. Perhaps the contracting sensation in your balls upon ejaculation could make sense? Picture that sensation, a bit more forcefully, inside your belly below your bellybutton.
A vagina itself has little nerve-endings, apart from at the entrance. So you could say there's quite a bit of no-where¬hing-land. It's the same area where a woman can comfortably wear a tampon without feeling it sit there. Speaking in facts; we only register pressure or receive input from whatever organs/tissue surrounding the vagina. It's why many women do not have orgasms from penetration alone, but need additional clitoral stimulation. There are also women who physically don't really enjoy penetration because of this; it doesn't really "give" them anything (thought the emotional part can make up for a lot; more about that later :)). However; there is also the fact the clitoris actually extends all the way inside, around the vagina. There is the gspot and the aspot and every unnameable spot that drives women wild, whether scientifically proven or not. Speaking for myself; I do recognize area's inside my own vagina that are typically numb and only register when something proportionate is inside, but other area's and sweet spots that make it one feast of sensations :)
I myself was delighted the first time my then-boyfriend put a finger inside me to please me. A sensation completely different to how I with effort had shoved tampons inside there, which in fact without fail resulted in feeling absolutely nothing. Not even pain. Even at my unsuccessful attempts, while my vagina is able to tense up till the point nothing will enter no matter how much pressure applied.
But that first time I felt his finger gently seeking it's way in, applying pressure and friction, exploring and swiftly finding the exact places that left me I shivered with ecstasy and unable to stop the waves of pleasure coming over me, completely overwhelmed me with what my vagina was capable of. I also absolutely loved it the first time I felt a penis inside me. No pain, just intense pleasure. That is so overwhelming it takes hold of me completely; consumes me and liberates me.
It is hard to compare this to something, because even the sensations I feel on other parts of my body may be completely unfamiliar to anyone else, male or female. I'd say it's that tingling and prickling feeling I get when someone licks my neck that sends shivers up and down my spine. It's just that now these shivers will travel down to up. And the epicenter of that pleasure comes from more deeply inside me, making it more intense. There's also some similarity to my mouth; particularly in that moment where something reaches the back of my throat and is at the threshold of disappearing inside my body. The way my vagina envelops a penis and even though that penis is still part of another person, it seems to be at the threshold of infusing with me. This is not, may I point out, in any way the same to me as using a toy. Even when the toy is pre-heated, it never gives me that sort of feeling. A toy is more about a sense of fullness and vibrations that encourage my blood to flow towards the area. A tool; nothing more, nothing less. And very different from a penis with the inevitable person with his own thoughts, feelings and actions attached to it :)
Which brings us to the emotional component. I guess there is a emotional component and significance to this that may totally depend upon my emotional state and my relationship/feelings with the person in question and vice versa his state and feelings towards me. The unique 'vibe' of that moment, that makes sex different every time, even when it's with the same person. To me; a penis may feel like actually filling a void inside me; as a source of my comfort. It can feel like I'm embracing him; a vagina that hugs :) It can feel like totally melting together; in the most romantic way possible, there's not telling where he ends and I begin. It can feel like I'm taking control of him, while he squirms underneath me and I know I'm making him. Even ownership; for in that moment his penis is mine.
Negative perspective (and how to avoid :))
Sadly penises don't always feel that good. I've had men thrust away at me. Honestly; that feels like someone is swinging away at me with a bat :( If not painful, then it's numbing and incredibly unsatisfying. Also harmful; I've found out for myself it can take weeks for injuries to heal after a moron does that. And if he thrusts away at the wrong angle, it can even put a woman in hospital.
As an additional note: I can't say this is true for everyone, but I feel that men tend to become desensitized, rough and even reckless the moment they put protection on. Which first of all; he shouldn't be doing because it increases the chances of a condom tearing/breaking. And second; just because he feels less doesn't mean she needs to suffer! In fact; a woman might also dislike the use of a condom (I know I do). But you're both using it for a greater good, so let's not take it out on her. I'd say; men, be more careful and caring instead of less when you feel less. And make sure you use other input if you can't feel what you're doing so clearly no more.
Hope this helps! :) Also: perhaps you would like to return the favor and post a thread with your input on how sex feels like to men?
Posted: 14 Jan 02:50