Feeling inadequate letting my wife get herself off before sex
Before we have sex my wife lets me watch her use a massager to get herself off. For me it is a spectators sport and I don't get to play as she wants to do it herself as I don't do it right. There was a time I was able to get her and she verbally guided me to the right spot but now she just does it herself while I watch then we have sex after she is finished. I feel kind of perverted watching her like it is some peep show and I question myself "how come I can't make her orgasm?"
As far as we know she only orgasms from clitoral stimulation. I used to be able to get her off with my hand or fingers then I made the mistake of buying a massager that plugs in the wall. For a while I was able to use it on her but now she does it all herself while I sit there with my crank in my hand like some adult book store perverted creep. Wondering if I am inadequate to fill her needs here and what does sex do for her that she hasn't already taken care of with the massager??? Do women feel pleasure from sexual intercourse even if they don't orgasm??
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While this is my preference, nothing is more sexy or sexually stimulating than watching a woman pleasure herself. I am 68 and cannot perform like I once could due to ED, so I resort to other forms of play. I will turn my head around to where it is close to her vagina and watch her masturbate, especially if she is penetrating herself with a toy or fingers. I also masturbate and we both will cum.
My current lover is also 68 yet she gets turned on so easily like girls I knew in their 20's. I am considering purchasing a cock ring to see if I can maintain an erection enough to penetrate her. She says she likes oral the best, and that I can still do no problem, but I feel she is saying that to not hurt my feelings and would love a good push-up session. But to your original question, any type of sexual play is good and no need to feel inadequate.