Long story short: I'm a virgin, but want to be able to have vaginal intercourse with my boyfriend. I've been having extreme difficulty trying to attempt any sort of vaginal penetration. Fingers, tampons, Q-tips, you name it, all are impossible. In late April, my gynecologist performed a hymenectomy on me, as she discovered I had a microperforate hymen. I was told not to attempt any penetration of any kind for six weeks after the surgery, so I didn't.
Now, for the last couple months, I've been trying, but I've still had almost no luck. I don't know what else I can do; I use a hand mirror (so I know I've got the right spot), I sit or squat with my legs as far apart as possible, I hold my labia apart, I use excessive amounts of KY, and even masturbate first to relax the muscles. So far, the only thing I've managed is to insert a Q-tip about 1/2 an inch. It feels like there's just nowhere for it to go, though I know that's obviously not true.
What else can I do? I'm planning on scheduling another appointment with my gyno, but I don't know what else I can try, or what she can tell me. I was wondering if anybody had any ideas.
kate_luana
Posted: 23 Sep 22:50
Do a search on "vaginismus." Sound familiar?
Do not even consider purchasing any of the books or home treatments. If this sounds like it may be you, discuss it specifically with your gyn. All have seen the condition, infrequently, but too many do not think about it.
Brandye
Posted: 23 Sep 22:50
i had a exgirlfriend who had the same problem. we tried to have sex and do things like that, in the end we bought a vibrator, she tried to put it in and only got the tip in
with playing with each other when we could was just rubbing her clit and just foreplay mostly
i am sure there is other females who cant do it either, it must make it hard if a guy loves a female enough who cant have sex, just means you have to organise other ways to have children
CLVR-HNDS_GUY
Posted: 23 Sep 22:50
Thanks for the messages. I've made an appointment to see my gyno; unfortunately it's for a month from now (the earliest time I could get in). Hopefully her advice will be worth the wait.
kate_luana
Posted: 23 Sep 22:51
I'm glad you have an appt to see your doctor. They know what treatment you were given and may determine you need more. Hopefully this person, your doctor, is someone you are comfortable with. If this is the case, or if not I guess you have a month to try and think about it, take a tampon with you.
Having never been able to insert a tampon, and hopefully you will now, be able to now, getting a lesson in learning how to insert one.
smallestoftheclan
Posted: 23 Sep 22:51
Small I dont think that she needs a lesson on how to put one in. I think brandye is right, vaginismus. The fact that she can barely put in a q-tip is a pretty good indicator.
Ducy
Posted: 23 Sep 22:51
Ducy I only suggested she take one with her. If it is not vaginismus then she will have one with her. If she has never been able to insert one then perhaps she is a little unclear as to how to insert one. To be prepared is better than not being so.
smallestoftheclan
Posted: 23 Sep 22:51
