Hey Duckie, this is actaully an outstanding question and I don't think many of us have ever really thought about it. I'm gonna go off the cuff and give you a stream of consciousness response from this "old man."
I love my wife, my children, and my extended families. I loved my high school and college sweethearts. But the love that I have for each of them is . . . different.
With a partner, I think that love is very much physical and emotional. When those two are in perfect balance, you have true love. One can feel that they're in love, but there are implicit boundaries to the love. Once those boundaries are breached, one has given him or herself fully to their partner. I'm talking about emotional boundaries, not physical.
Some of Nicholas' posts are a good example to what I'm trying to explain. Clearly he was or is in love with his girlfriend, yet he's had a difficult time getting over some of the emotions that he's dealing with- her perceived successes and his perceived lack thereof.
Do I think a 14-year old can be in love? Yes. Do I think it's the type of love that can sustain the pressures, emotions and physical changes of the teenage years? Only in the rarest of people.
I won't call it puppy love, but I don't believe that it is the love that I have in my heart for my wife and children. And before anyone of the teenagers here say that I can't know how much you love your b/f or g/f, please remember that I've already been through these confusing times myself.
Posted: 30 Sep 22:34