Many couples play sex games like bondage, Role Playing, and dominance & submission. Experimenting allows their fantasies to come to life and promotes trust and openness in a relationship.
Firstly, let’s address the issue of him “not liking it if you try”. If he asked you to take charge while you’re having sex, then he clearly has a desire to see you star in his fantasy. In fact, some men find it very arousing to be able to submit to and ‘serve’ a woman who demands control in the bedroom. Regardless of his particular desires, be assured that it’s a positive thing when men share their kinky dreams, and then want to act them out together!
Here’s a great way to commence your exploration. Go right to the source; ask your man exactly he wants, say while you’re lying in bed stroking one another. Expect two things: a heated sexual encounter, and plenty of ideas to get acquainted with. If you don’t think you’ll know how to act them out, read around this site, consult sexual health books, go to an adult store for ideas, and watch some erotic videos.
Embody the spirit of BDSM (Bondage, Discipline/Dominance, Submission/Sadism & Masochism) but do it a way that honors what you’re about, and to a level that you are both comfortable with. Many women share the same apprehension about assuming a commanding role with your sexual partner; starting slow will help you build self-assurance and more sexual conviction.
Posted: 17 Aug 21:12