OP: Guys, do you get drained after the second orgasm?

Imagine eating your favourite dish (not oral sex related) over and over again. Eventually that great taste and feeling associated with it will become...worn. He may need a little more time before it gains back its novelty.

I can't speak about sexual intercourse (still a virgin) but for masturbating I can be aroused enough to do it 4 times in a day. But by that time it doesn't feel the same anymore and some of the pleasure is lost. After that, cumming just feels strained and displaced (for lack of a better word) from the feelings that wanted me to do it in the first place. Sometimes even I can't be bothered to do it for another two days.

Now I am not your significant other so I don't know how he is feeling but maybe that has something to do with it. Maybe you guys can just do a lot of foreplay sessions and he doesn't have to cum (but you can if you wish). This way you're still sexually involved, he can still express his affection and he can recharge sexually enough where cumming gains back its importance/wonder and will happen easier.

Ask him too? He can better explain than any of us.

Knight

Posted: 23 Sep 06:20

Oh its nothing like that. :) He's just genuinely tired, he wants me still, I know that. In fact we almost had sex yesterday, and just now...but he says he's a bit sore (it does look a bit more red than it should :(), and he thinks it would take him too long to come because he has so much.

We have been making out lots, and he hasn't been fingering me, but he has been rubbing me.

curious_woman

Posted: 23 Sep 06:20

Well, if he's genuinely tired you have your answer then, wait a bit more. When you finally do have sex it will be all the more passionate. :)

From what I understood, you wrote that his penis seems more red than usual. You also mention soreness, do you mean the skin? Abrasion perhaps? Either way that is another reason to wait a bit longer before him using it so much or it can get worse (if there is indeed a problem there). OR just use more lube. I don't know if you are already taking these precautions or not, but if you are I'm sorry for repeating.

The point I was making in my previous post was that, the desire never diminishes but cumming with great frequency loses its pleasure a bit and will take longer to achieve. For all I know it has nothing to do with what I wrote.

Either way, best of luck.

Knight

Posted: 23 Sep 06:20

Well I was on my period, aka not as "moist" down there as normal...we had to use a bit of lube sometimes for him to get in. But like...you know that thingy on the underside (under when its soft) of the head of a cock...I forget the scientific name for it. I guess its where the foreskin attaches to the head, he's uncircumcised. Anyways, thats his most sensitive part, the little bump there, he loves when I lick it :). Its red and he says it hurts, because I haven't been wet enough and I'm really tight. I know a few times before when he talked about masturbating, that if he did it more than once a day it hurt there too so its just from friction.

Btw I thought you meant emotionally sex does not feel as good if you've had too much, like the desire? My misunderstanding.

Anyways, I have to wait until tomorrow :( rofl!

curious_woman

Posted: 23 Sep 06:20

The well can run dry! lol

I know from reading your posts that you and your b/f have high sex drives...but don't burn yourselves out!

My b/f and I did that when we first moved in together.. it was like 2-3 times a day for awhile...then twice a day...then once a day... you get the picture :)
I don't know, after awhile it can get old... I mean it loses it's "meaning" if you are constantly doing it... plus who has the time? :)

But if you've read my posts... you know my sex drive isn't very high... so maybe it's just me lol

demonbuttercup

Posted: 23 Sep 06:21

depends what he is doing when not at home. if he is working hard he may well be knackered.

Posted: 24 Sep 14:33