Tips on how to talk to your wife...

Women and men communicate DIFFERENTLY. Nuance and subtlety work with women and if you're using Typical Guy-Speak you may be saying more than you mean to say - women tend to 'read into' men's words; whereas, men only understand about half of what a woman's saying when she uses Woman-Speak.

1. when you talk to her do NOT sound like you're blaming or accusing her
2. ask questions she can NOT answer with a short or one word phrase
3. ask her to DESCRIBE what she's feeling, do NOT ask her to TELL what she's feeling
4. since you have noticed she 'shuts down' ask her WHY and HOW she developed that habit
5. ask her to consider how any given situation looks from your point of view and have her DESCRIBE that conception to you

BTW - depending upon her personality type 'taking control' may not be the best idea

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