OP: No matter what I do, I can't orgasm

Relax..breathe... and let it go.. It is really that simple...
If you look around the site there is alot of posts about this
look for them and read them..

Good luck..

nuttychick

Posted: 23 Sep 20:07

Don't let the odd feeling stop you. Don't give in right away to the urge to pull away or tell him to stop. It truly is as simple as relaxing and letting it go.

I'll be the first to admit that, early on, some of the ways my body responds freaked me out a little--things like shaking knees, and the pelvis moving involuntarily. But all those things are just part of it. And if you're worried about his reaction to see it, don't. If anything it tells him he's doing well.

lnt1103

Posted: 23 Sep 20:08

There are articles listed in the Index on female masturbation. It is important to know two things, initially; first, we do not give orgasms away, each of us is responsible for his or her own. All any of us can hope to accomplish is to help our partner achieve them; second, that you must learn to masturbate (privately, on your own) and be able to do so regularly and consistently before you can help your partner learn to mimic your unique and specific technique.

> I just started recently having sex more frequently with my boyfriend and he has been begging me to orgasm for him. He keeps trying his best and doing everything and so have I.

Please read the how-to article on this. You have to guide him and give him verbal and/or non-verbal feedback on how you are responding and for what you need now/next. We all masturbate in essentially the same way for our gender, however, each of us over time comes up with a variation to the theme that is unique to us. If the other person does not quite match our method then either an orgasm will not happen or it will be less than expected.

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dancingdoc2

Posted: 23 Sep 20:08

In the absence of physical/medical issues - any problem with orgasms is in your head.

1. What is your attitude about sex? A poor attitude will kill orgasms.
2. Do you tense up, hold your breath, worry about having an orgasm? If so you are stopping yourself from having one even before it begins and there is nothing anyone can do to get you off.
3. Were you abused, sexually or otherwise? You will need professional help to fix this.
4. Do you want to retain power over yourself and/or over your bf? Based upon it felt odd so I pulled bacl" I'd say YES. To which Id' say: GROW UP & LET IT GO. Because you're ruinning your relationship with him and you're cheating/hurting yourself.
5. There is something wrong in your relationship that you are unwilling to acknowledge, discuss, and solve.

Do not blame him - it is not his job to give you anything beyond a helping hand/penis/mouth. YOU have to decide for yourself that sex is grand, sex is glorious, and my sexuality is my birthright!

Face Up, 'Fess Up, then Fix Up!

EvilEvilKitten

Posted: 23 Sep 20:08