An asexual person deserves just as much respect as any other. And I wouldn't agree that being asexual by definition also makes you a loner. Because I don't think sexual desire is the same as social and emotional qualities. I think asexuals could be just as capable of forming relationships. It may complicate things when finding a life-partner, but that wasn't an easy task to begin with ;) Platonic relationships have existed throughout history. So why wouldn't there be a match for them?
The way I consider homo- and bisexuality is as an (innate) nature. It is not a choice. You just are what you are. The only choice there is, is whether you live it and society lets you. For asexuality this could be the same. And I'd encourage everyone to be happy with who they are! Though there is a thing about asexuality that deserves a bit of attention. Since it is known that bad experiences could make people lose their sexual desires. There could be something that's blocking it.
Personally; I contemplated on whether I was asexual for some time. Because I lacked all sexual desire throughout my teens. I wasn't happy about it, but was considering to accept it. Yet in fact; this lack was caused by not coping with sexual trauma as a child. Only as I started coping and was able to recode my first imprint by beautiful sexual experiences, it became possible for me to desire and enjoy, even with multiple orgasms :) I'm still not sure how my sexual nature should be defined exactly, but I am sure I desire.
Posted: 14 Jan 03:12