As EEK points out; you'll never know whether it was really you. So try not to make yourself feeling too guilty, if you receive bad news.
I don't know if there was pun intended in your chocolates&flowers-comment? My first thoughts wouldn't be getting my ex something, because whatever I get will then be connected to that moment. And I certainly don't know how your ex interprets such gifts, so EEK could be right. However: neither would primarily make me think of courtship or romance, unless in a heart-shaped-box or fluffy card attached to it ;) Receiving flowers I associate with apologies or cheering me up when ill. So that would probably match your intention, if she thinks alike. If she's on a diet that isn't working, receiving chocolates could make her closer to crying. But perhaps you know chocolates are always welcome to her and bring a smile back on her face. If that's so, I wouldn't hesitate to buy her some. Point being: gifts are tricky business when given in a negative moment in time, so you need to know someone well.
And though it's not your responsibility: Has your ex been tested herself yet? Even if you're clean, she could have it. And even if you have it, she could not. Her symptoms could be indicating something else. You getting tested isn't enough to be sure. She should go to her doctor.[/QUOTE]
Yeah exactly, I had no intention of sending her something romantic. My intention is to send her something that will make her smile....thats the only reaction I want. I dont want a romantic reaction or even a 'oh hes so sweet' reaction, just want to brighten her day. As EvilEvilKitten said me sending her flowers or chocolates wont fix anything and im not naive to that, my intention is purely to make her smile for a moment so that she may forget it for a second.
No she hasnt been tested yet as in the area she lives its hard to get doctors appointments at short notice so she will be going first thing next week. I have told her that i am by no means taking away from the fact it could be all my fault BUT there is possibilities that she may have got it from a previous partner and it has only shown up now and that also she could have something completely different and self diagnosis can be mentally draining.
Also EvilEvilKitten you seem to be very harsh on me in this situation....but please remember I am in the same position as my ex. The only way I could of got it is if one of my previous partners was dishonest with me. Im being as sympathetic as I can be to my ex but im still facing the possibility of having a disease that I wont ever get rid of that I never asked to get.
Posted: 30 Sep 04:10