Both you and your boyfriend are clearly dealing with a lot of change and uncertainty, and this can be a challenge for many couples to overcome, but you guys seriously need to get on the same page in a hurry, because if this situation is any indication of the events to come, it is not going to get any better without some serious effort on both of your parts.
His emotional distance is a classic symptom of stress, and it's no surprise given the huge amount of pressure he feels knowing that fatherhood, and taking care of a family, are just around the corner. It also doesn't help that the majority of your time is away from each other, and what little you do have is spent in an awkward state of limbo, where you desperately need each other’s support but are too disconnected to give it.
The hard truth of the situation is that the honeymoon's over and reality is setting in fast … faster than you were ready to handle. For the sake of the well-being of you and your soon-to-be family, all that can be done to improve these circumstances is to focus on moving forward to re-establish the stability of your relationship. Don't kid yourself into thinking that things will get better by just sparking romance, or having more sex. Until you two agree upon strategies to deal with the issues that are contributing to the rift - the isolation that you're feeling by living apart, having a baby on the way, the stress from being overworked - it will be difficult, if not impossible, to feel engaged with one another again.
Stress will certainly have a bearing on your sex drive, but what it chips away at most is one's ability to feel present and connected with others, even the people you care about most. If you can learn to provide one another with solace and support, with some fun and good humor along the way, you'll be able to get through life's challenges by working together, even when stress pulls you apart. Make the commitment to change your situation for the better and get the ball rolling by communicating these goals to him – and finding some solutions together.
Posted: 17 Aug 20:52