BF cheated... now i have chlamydia
Here's the deal. I have been in a "monogamous" relationship for four years. I was recently diagnosed with chlamydia. My now ex admitted to sleeping with a girl on and off since last spring. He claims that they always used a condom for intercourse but that she went down on him without one.
Soooo...a couple questions.
1. Is this a possible method of transmission? I have always been under the impression that it COULD happen via oral sex.
2. Other than gonorrhea, chlamydia, and herpes, what other stds can be passed on via oral sex? I've been tested for everything; I would honestly like to be able to give the moron a quick lesson on stds so he isn't so stupid with his next girlfriend. The man didn't even know what chlamydia or gonorrhea were.
neverdiplomatic
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Well, at least you got a very treatable one. Chlamydia lives in semen and vaginal juices and can be passed orally, anally or vaginally. It is easily treatable - make certain you take all your medications. The symptoms can disappear but the bacteria may still be present. There are one time drugs but more commonly it is a week's regimen.
Yes, this is a possible manner of transmission. So is vaginal intercourse with a condom. The condom is the best defense if used properly every time but, as with pregnancy, it reduces the chances but does not eliminate them completely. And his going down on her (not mentioned) is another possible route of transmission.
Although some may wish to nitpick me, I tell people that anything that is contagiously genitally is also contagious orally. You were wise to be tested for anything for which there is a test including HIV.
If he is out of your life, let someone else (the doctor treating his chlamydia!) educate him. Feel lots of anger and make certain none turns to guilt. You will live beyond this.
Brandye
Thanks Brandye.
He actually doesn't go down on girls much. He only did with me a couple times in four years and with all his previous girlfriends excepting one, never. She, however, went down on him without a condom.
There is no guilt for me whatsoever. I did nothing to deserve this. I was faithful to him for four years; I was the best thing that ever happened to the loser. He himself whines this over the phone every time he gets drunk. Not gonna work.
I DID do something of which I am proud today. I told each of the guys I know she was banging that they need to be checked out. Guess what? She knew she had it, has been treated for it, and has not told a single one of her partners. Disgusting little tramp.
If he was willing to throw his family away for something like THAT thing, he was never good enough for us in the first place.
neverdiplomatic
I am sorry. And happy that you are keeping it together. I am also sorry to say that women, and men, knowingly spread their little surprise entirely too often. In the UK, we keep a registry. I would assume you do the same at state or whatever your local health agency is.
Brandye
Hey Brandye
Thanks again for your help. Thought you'd like to know that all my tests are still coming back clean thank heavens! So far so lucky, that's how I'm viewing it. The cheating dog has been trying to get me back, but as I'm moving about 8 hours away in 6 days, that isn't going to happen.
neverdiplomatic