> I am 20, he is 22, we have been seeing each other for almost 2 weeks. I have rules on myself so I haven't had sex with him yet. So since then we have been been doing oral to each other.
Less than two (2) weeks and you are engaging in oral (and hand jobs?), already? What is the rush? Why not take time to fool around and make out, first for several weeks/months, beginning with Necking, progressing to Petting, on to Heavy Petting, all before ever getting to the Foreplay stage? Sex for sex sake is OK if this is all you want at this stage; however, your entire post seems to asking if he "cares" for you.
If you want to get to know him, what better way than to see how he makes love and arouses his partner? Does he whet your appetite in the morning before leaving by whispering in your ear (directly or over the telephone) what he would like to do with you at the end of the day when he returns?
Does he send a greeting card, or, place one where you will find it during the day?
Do the two of you make out for at least half an hour, or more within reason, before doing oral? If not, you are rushing and certainly not becoming as turned on and aroused as you could be by taking things much more slowly.
There are several articles on all this that you, and certainly he, should read about how to make out, make love, and later, have sex. If you two are fooling around for less than this or not much at all before foreplay activities, you need a good education on how to do all this.
> I am trying to see if he wants me for just sex or actually cares about me....I feel that he does, but I doubt myself because I have been played by guys in the past before just for one thing.
Please read the article regarding establishing trust. That guys have played you in the past does not mean that any of us will in the future.
> I am just wondering if anyone has advice or how long they waited before they have sex with a new guy.
You just answered your question, above. Do what feels right, yet do not rush right in and give him everything so quickly. Take several weeks, or a month or two or so, and learn about each other personally as well as romantically. Explore, slowly and learn together. You might also want to read the article on experience.
> And yes a condom will be used
A condom is insufficient. If you do not want to become a single mother, then you should be using some form of highly reliable form of birth control and looking out for A#1--you. If your boyfriend does not want to become a single father, then he should definitely be wearing a condom and looking out for A#1--himself. As back up the two of you should be using a third method--a spermicide in addition. No one method is full proof! Please do not try to fool or tempt Mother Nature as she can smite thee.
I hope this is of help. Got questions?
Posted: 09 Oct 03:21