The first kid is always the "life changer". You go from zero responsibilities to keeping a dependent person alive. But don't freak out about it. You will, just saying don't hoping that it'll lessen the blow.
Things will seem upside down for a while. But you'll soon realize it's not so much how your life becomes "harder", rather you soon realize "gee we used to not do shit all day!" Your friends group may change a bit, unless they are all going through the similar stage. You'll not feel like doing things you used to, but that's ok, because you'll have newer cooler things to do. Having your kid fall asleep on you at 2:00am is far more rewarding than anything. But everything's the change with the first. Second kid and on you just pare down what you did on the first. You see all the crap you do that's SO IMPORTANT that really isn't. You quit sterilizing your house in boiling water. You quit worrying if the dog licks their face. You know when to deflect a urine stream with the diaper you're changing so it doesn't get all over your church clothes.
So, more to your question of "are you ever really ready?" the answer is well, no not really. Because how can you be ready for something you have no idea about yet? But just look at it this way, you don't have to be really ready at all! You just need to be ready for the first week. All you need ready for a baby is some clothes, some diapers and consumables, a car seat, and an open mind. Everything else is just a matter of convenience for parents/baby. And besides, if you got pregnant tomorrow, you still have 40 weeks to get ready. Both physically and mentally. 40 weeks is a long time to fret, get over it, fret again, get over that, get excited, get bored, start nesting, and you're done.
So take care, and go have some unprotected sex and don't worry about it. :)
Posted: 30 Sep 20:17