The combo of oral and fingering can be one of the most powerful combinations for women. Getting them to compliment each other rather than distracting from each other can be tricky tho. My general method for the complete experience is as follows:
Start with some good lengthy foreplay to get things moving in the right direction. Lots of kissing, necking and caressing are important. I generally start the approach with a bit of light fingertip stroking of the clit. If you did the foreplay right, there should be enough of her own lubrication to make this a bit of a slip and slide over the clit. Think of it as just gliding over the surface. If things start to dry up a bit from the friction, do a quick slip of the fingertip down to her vagina just to moisten the fingertip again. Do not ram your finger into her, the theme here is light and gentle.
After a bit of this, and with encouragement for more from her (moaning and other happy noises) move down her body to replace your finger with your tongue. Let your tongue take over the light caress of the clit, and increase intensity and pressure over time. You are building up to something, do not push too much to fast. I like to start with some long licks from her opening to the top of her clit before concentrating on the clitoris.
A quick 'no no' on clitoral stimulation. Variety is good, at first. Try several different techniques to see what really gets her going. But once you find something good, stick with it. I can't tell you the number of times I was getting a great licking, but then my partner changed rhythm or technique and just totally lost my building orgasm. Increasing intensity can be good, but something completely different can be a disaster.
So you have a good rhythm going, a mild intensity and happy noises abound. Yay! Lets add fingers.
One of my favorite ways to add fingers is VERY gradually. Start by moving your hand up her thigh, squeezing lightly. Move your hand to her inner thigh and continue squeezing. You want her to get the idea that you are going to go there, just not yet. Next, take your index and middle finger and bend them, then place your knuckles just to the right of her vagina, just outside. You want to feel her wetness, but not be 'inside' her. Just let her know you are there. Increase your intensity with your mouth. Prepare her for good things to come.
From here I straighten out my fingers and gradually gradually slide them inside her. You almost want her to be begging for you to be inside her and then give it to her, but slowly. Once you are inside of her don't stop there. Increase the intensity on her clit, and press upward with your fingers (towards her G-spot) and a bit deeper so that she begins to feel less tease, and more full. Hold that for just a bit, and then you can begin moving your fingers in and out, slowly at first, but then over time increasing intensity.
Try to match the intensity of mouth and fingers. Listen to her body. ALL of her body. Happy noises are good, a hardening clit is good, swelling vaginal walls are good, feeling her "open up" inside is a GREAT sign. Just let her encourage you on and try to do what her body tells you. You should be orgasming any time.
The clincher to this technique is the finish. After she has come, unless you know your girl likes post orgasm clitoral contact, remove your mouth. However, leave your fingers inside her. Don't thrust or wiggle, just let them be inside her. If she had a great orgasm you might get to feel some of her contractions. Kiss her belly, upper legs and thighs and SLOWLY start to pull out of her. And I mean slowly. As you are pulling out, press on one side of her inner thigh with your arm. As you are pulling away keep pressure on the inner thigh, and even after your fingers have left her vagina, trail them along the inner thigh.
Why? It makes it feel like it is taking forever for you to leave her because you were so deep inside of her. Its kinda hard to describe why this is so awesome, but it is.
There you go, a JoP technique.
Ok, so that may have been too detailed and too long winded, but forgive me, it was my first post.
Posted: 05 Oct 05:09