The dynamic of swinging is pretty different from most sexually-related issues.
Based on what you posted, i'm wondering a bit about
1) HOW you meet the couples you have already played with
2) Why, if you're not going for a full swap, you don't just look for a single woman. This would eliminate alot of the "couple drama" you have been experiencing.
3) What are you looking for in a woman for your wife? Do you have any requirements? age, size, body type, race, etc?
The fact taht you are looking for a female to play with your wife, and you want to be there to watch can make things uncomfortable for some couples? Since you call yourselfs "swingers" couples will expect to have some sort of group interaction..and thats probably why you're getting drama. Some hubby's don't want to just sit back with you and masturbate while the ladies are all over each other. Thats why you should think about looking for a single gal.
now, that said, it seems like 90% of all so-called "swinging" couples are looking for a 3rd female - for etiher full sex or some combination. Just know you're in a very competititve sexual market andyou'll have to be patient.
Posted: 01 Oct 22:57