OP: His test came back positive for Herpes
Ok. So I'm trying to stay calm, but still really freaking out. My partner of around three months has just informed me that his STD blood test shows that he is producing antibodies to fight off Herpes. Although stupidly I waited to have us both tested, at my insistence we both did. I went to the County Health Department got my blood drawn for both STDs and HIV. Everything came out just fine on the results. Although I'm not certain of everything they actually test for. I'm going to have to call tomorrow and find out if Herpes is on the list. Neither of us have had any symptoms...ever... of oral or genital herpes, it is said that many people never show symptoms. After talking to a friend's mother (a registered nurse), and doing a bit of research, I have learned that a) blood tests don't tell which type of herpes it is; b) that just because the body is producing antibodies that it doesn't necessarily mean that you actually have the virus; c) there is no cure, only suppression medication which doesn't prevent the spread of the disease; d) it could have been a false positive; and e) it can be passed along through touch via secretion of the skin (kissing, drinking from the same glass, touching w/ open sores, oral sex, making out, sex, being sneezed on, etc.
If you would like to give any other information, or disspell any myths, please do so.
Here is a big question to anyone reading this. Should I go back to the health department and have THEM retest me? If they did test me for it in the last blood test they did. Not having insurance, should I go to the local medical center and have THEM do the test? OR... should I go to the family planning center where I always have my semi-annual checkups done and have them test me for it?
Should I have him retest? If so, where?
I am fairly certain that if I had scarring from a past outbreak it would have been noticed by now and that at my last checkup they would have told me about it. In the past they noticed scarring from a botched koposcopy then tested me for herpes and the test came out negative. That was years ago and nothing suspicious has been mentioned to me since.
Also... even though it is still a new relationship, this man has mentioned several times the idea of getting married and having children (we're both getting up in age...him more than me). Is it even possible to have a healthy relationship with someone if it turns out that I don't have it, but they do?
In the Valtrex commercial the couples all look so happy, but right now I feel dirty and vexed. Not happy, healthy and normal. All these years, through many men... I have still been extremely cautious. Why is it that the guy appearing to be most stable, responsible, caring and generous person I meet the one who ends up giving me an STD? Why couldn't it have been the one night stand, or the creep?
Sorry about the rant, I just don't know where to go from here. And do I have to inform the last few people I slept with before him? Even though I used protection with them and were extremely careful, it's possible they could have passed it to me, or gotten it from me via kissing right? I was dating a few people when I met this guy, but was only sleeping with one man before meeting him within the last 8 months.
If anyone has been through this, or if there are any medical experts on here wiling to give advice, please let me know what I should be doing next.
Posted: 30 Sep 02:40