Well, as a guy i'm not going to be able to say what female to female flirting is like, or even what works, but I do know how women flirt with me, and vice versa.
I've noticed that flirting with women from a male perspective is mostly self deprecating humor for me. I tease about how I am a dork, or how I'm not a typical "macho" man, then try to incorporate that into her. For example I'll talk about doing laundry, and how I have a magical power that I almost always end up with the correct number of socks (I do). Most people will open up to a thing like that because they don't, which gives me an in for more joking around. I've noticed that women (well, a certain "caliber" of women) aren't impressed with what guys would think. They aren't impressed by touts of strength or abilities. That just comes off as a braggart.
Also, I've noticed women are way more visual in sending and receiving queues. Women will accentuate what they like about themselves. Fingers through hair, hands on their legs, etc. One lady I know is very oral when she flirts. Like eating she'll suck her fingertips a little longer while looking in the person's eyes, etc. These seem to work for men to women too. Running my fingers through my hair, or things like that. Not flexing around or lifting heavy things. That's back to braggart.
Basically to me, flirting is like normal interactions, but just "more" and geared towards your target. I like to be funny, but I'll be funnier to that person. You may be able to use your flustered feelings to your advantage. Maybe express to a woman "I'm sorry, but I'm taken aback by you. I'm not able to express myself to you like I so hoped to." The women I've flirted with seem to like knowing they have an upper hand over a man, especially a "big guy", kind of removing the threatening feeling of someone twice their strength. Who knows, it may have the same effect for women to women? Maybe it will disarm the competition factor that women seem to have for one another?
Posted: 09 Oct 00:01