There's definitely no sexual tension between them, as in Brandyes post. It's more...2 people who have talked almost daily to eachother over the past year and who genuinely care for each other. She's beautiful, he knows it, and I truly don't take him for the type who would go behind my back and sneak around with her (and I KNOW my wife wouldn't do that anyway). She says he's more like a brother, which is the impression I got when they were hanging out, but they obviously care for each other. Really, that is great to have another guy who would be there to help her with something if I can't. I guess that's what is sort of weird to me - my dad was an abusive overly jealous alcoholic, and my mom wasn't allowed to have any male friends. That's all my experience with this situation has been, outside of this message board. I know if my dad saw my wife going out with another (single) man he would be thinking the worst...but I don't care, I never talk with him nowadays.
So I think lnt (with his first suggestion) & Evil hit it right on the head. I did end up talking with her (just saying again that I absolutely trust her, and that he seems like a really nice guy, but that I know about the sexual jokes he has a tendency to make and that he doesn't need to be nervous around me when he does make one. I trust her judgment.) And I also had a talk with him. He obviously cares for her, I admitted I was jealous at first but I'm not anymore of their relationship, and that they seem like very compatible friends, and I'm glad it worked out between them.
I also told her if she wishes to meet him by herself for dinner or something, they can do that.
So I guess as Evil said - if you trust your wife, the other guy, and have faith in your marriage, then her going out by herself with the guy isn't a big deal. I just come from an environment where it is, but thank god I don't feel that same jealously my dad did.
Posted: 06 Oct 20:17