The first time I held a mature (OK, it was 14 yo as was I) penis, my reaction was, “THIS fits in ME?!” As I pressed it up and down in the semi-darkness, it let loose. All over; at great distance; in huge volumes. Or so it seemed. It was on my skirt, my blouse, the couch, the coffee table, his pants. We scrambled to clean it all up but it started to disappear as it turned to water. I got the giggles and he became embarrassed. He felt terrible but allowed that it had felt good. I jacked him off again, this time with a tissue, and all was better. I did do him again to make him feel better but more to address my curiosity of what was really happening.
This time, I caught every drop in a couple tissues and held it as I snuggled and kissed his neck. I smelled it; I watched it liquefy; I wondered what it all was. The young scientist in me was at work. And I answered the question as to what would be left in me when I finally took a penis into my vagina. This was what could make me pregnant!
For most of the next year our sex was confined to my doing handjobs and his fingering me – not too well. I think I got better but he did not. By the time I got around to taking that penis into me I knew more about how it would work than about how I would. Girls should be encouraged to masturbate to learn how their bodies work sexually. I had already been doing that for two years. They should also be encouraged to jack their partners off to learn how he works. I am still fascinated with watching a penis at my touch grow to five times its previous size, become engorged, change colors and then discharge semen to the gratification of the owner and the future of humanity. Nature could care less whether we women are orgasmic but the male must be – for his own health as well as the future of the race.
The chemical composition can be found here: [url="http://www.jackinworld.com/library/science/semcomp.html"]http://www.jackinworld.com/library/science/semcomp.html
Reading what is in it is like reading the label on junk food. A bunch of stuff with fancy names that means nothing unless you are a chemist. So, let’s simplify. About ten percent of the ejaculate is sperm. Each ejaculation has about 400 million of them and only one can make you pregnant. They do take up a little space but not much. If a man has a vasectomy, the volume of his ejaculate does decrease but not really noticeably. The rest is semen which delivers the sperm into your vagina, neutralizes the acidity of the surroundings, feeds the sperm as they begin their travels and gets thinner to allow them to swim more efficiently. The rather viscous glob is the best way to deliver the sperm as it ejaculates quickly and smoothly but swimming in it would be rather difficult. So it liquefies, the sperm get their last nourishment and go on their way in search of your egg. Most of the semen, about 60%, is made in the seminal vesicles, little organs which have semen making as their only purpose. The remainder is made in the prostate which is the organ that closes off the bladder and switches to the vesicles when a man has an erection and is approaching ejaculation. It is a two way valve.
A successful sperm will have been delivered into your vagina, chosen the proper direction to swim, entered through the cervical os into your uterus, traversed the length of your uterus and up the fallopian tube that contains the egg this month. Then the egg, in a complicated process not yet understood, actually chooses whether or not to accept that particular sperm. Once allowed, the sperm penetrates the egg and new life begins. The rest of the 400 million keep on looking.
There are many disappointed sperm. Considering the number that are made in the testicles, it is easy for you to extract from your boyfriend a few billion in a weekend! Most of them simply swim randomly until they die. So what happens to that tablespoon of juice deposited in your belly?
If you are using a condom, they are captured, removed and harmlessly disposed of in a bin. If you are using chemical contraception, the sperm will be dumped into a pool of poison and should expire. If you are not using a condom, about half the semen and sperm will drain out of you. The infamous wet spot that we all seem to leave is wasted semen. Then, we all drain a bit for a few hours after receiving the semen. That is what makes the crotch of our panties stiff, mats our pubic hair and gives us an unpleasant smell for a few hours when we relieve ourselves. Actually, the drainage consists of semen and our own lubricating juices. Both of these begin to putrify when air hits them and that gives the slightly unpleasant odor. If you dampen the stiffened spot on your knickers the next morning, you will get the unmistakable smell of semen.
The other half of the semen deposit will be absorbed through your vaginal walls. Some women have reported that they can taste semen twenty minutes or so after it is deposited in their vaginas. The mucous membrane of your moth is very similar to that of your vagina and the semen has been absorbed by your bloodstream and transported throughout your body. For a day or so after unprotected sex, semen is a part of your blood and your internal sex organs have millions of sperm swimming around. In our little medical lab, it is sometimes considered a bit humourous when a woman’s urine sample includes sperm. I recall an old maid, uptight church organist whose sample showed lots of sperm. The lab techs twittered for days.
The first ejaculate after a while (say, a day or so) will be a little darker, stronger smelling and tasting and contain more sperm than subsequent ejaculations. I avoid doing blowjobs for the first event. As a teen, I always took the first one by hand, into a tissue or a condom. As I learned to do oral, I would take that bare or with a condom (whatever I felt safe with) in my mouth and, in my vagina, always with a condom. I always guided him in partly to get it in smoothly and partly as a last check that the condom was properly rolled all the way up to his base. I have had condoms partly roll off inside me and one that came all the way off. That can be a fright and is another reason I recommend vaginal jelly with condoms. I was not using it that afternoon and the rest of the month got very long.
As semen dries, the smell disappears and it makes whatever it is on quite stiff. Tissue, knickers, hair, whatever, and it usually makes a slight ring. It washes out but is identifiable until washed. My older sister, when young, took a risk with her boyfriend one evening, pulled up her panties and came home. She dropped them in the laundry bin and the next day, my mother went nuts. All women can identify semen spots and when slightly dampened the smell returns. My sister talked like crazy but it is hard to explain away a huge semen spot on the absorbent panel of ones’ panties.
The semen from a healthy man is perfectly safe from a disease standpoint. It even adds a little protein to your diet! In a stable relationship the worst thing that happens is that you ingest a few drops of urine as he does when he goes down on you. But virtually all STDs and blood born diseases can be transmitted in semen. HIV is the one with the most press but bacterial STDs such as gonorrhea or blood born diseases such as hepatitis can also be passed. Semen is a blood product and, as such, will contain whatever the man’s blood contains. That includes what he has been eating and, after a Thai dinner, can burn your throat. If he has been exercising heavily, there will be a high concentration of lactic acid; eating dairy products may taste like bleu cheese!
If you are not that familiar with the guy, use a condom for oral sex as well as vaginal. There are some prostitutes who reputedly can start with a condom in their mouths and roll it on without the man’s noticing. While I have no such proficiency, I can put a condom on, do the blow job and remove it with a small towel with him none the wiser. Not a bad skill to develop if you are a bit on the promiscuous side.
The male is constantly making sperm in his testicles and semen in the vesicles. This must have some release. Wet dreams are the natural consequence of his not masturbating or having sex. We women have no such necessity. You should consider that the male reproductive tract is always teeming with sperm. There are certainly enough of them around! Even placing the tip of a penis against your vaginal entrance or in the folds of you labia without his coming can be accepting thousands or even millions of sperm. A good rule is that if you both have your pants off, he must have a condom on. Perhaps you can be a little more relaxed if you have spermicide in you but when pregnancy would be a major problem, a penis near your crotch should be in a condom.
OP: Brandye 08/04/2005
Posted: 23 Sep 02:36