Urinary Tract Infections
I have suffered with chronic UTI's for a long time, as long as I can remember, both before and after becoming sexually active. I have seen many doctors about them and have been prescribed a multitude of different medications, which usually do work, but only for a certain amount of time. Mine come and go in bouts, I will go years without getting them and then go through a year or so of chronic infections coming every month. Unfortunately, I have not yet found a permanent cure for this and neither has any doctor I have seen, but I have learned some ways to prevent them and to lessen the pain and irritation on my own when I am in a time of suffering. I don't know if regular posters are supposed to reply to these posts but I wanted to share my techniques in case they may be able to help someone else with the same problem.
First and foremost, I am religious about being clean and my BF being clean before having sex. Every doctor and website that I've visited has explained that most UTI's come from a bacteria that is found in feces and the rectum, so touching the anal area and then touching the vaginal/urethra area can spread those bacteria and allow them to travel up into your bladder. My BF and I have always been extremely careful about anal sex for this reason. We do not usually do any anal play, but on the rare occasion we do we make sure to wash hands and his penis and anything else that touches that area both before and after. It absolutely shocks me that you often see men in porn videos putting their penis in a girls anus, and then pulling out and putting it directly in her vagina without any pause. Please, do not do that at home. It took some good explaining to my BF that some of the things you see in a porn video are just NOT healthy to do in real life. He had no idea. I believe that many men are probably just as ignorant as he is on the topic, so be prepared to speak up.
On the topic of being clean - I always make my BF wash his hands before we have sex anyway, regardless of whether or not there is going to be anal play. I wash mine too. Neither of you really know what you have touched and the vagina is such a sensitive area that can breed bacteria so fast, why take those chances? It is also important to wash after sex, I always get up and go to the bathroom to pee (eliminating the bladder reduces the chances of bacteria getting up there, as was said before) and I wash my vagina off with warm water in an effort to help that cause even more. It is also important to always wipe front to back, instead of back to front. Think of it as wiping the bacteria away from the urethra instead of towards it. Any little thing that helps the cause is a good thing, in my experience.
As for regular maintenence - I find that I need to drink a LOT of water, more than what is recommended daily. This is good for overall health I am sure anyway. I also try to stay away from alcohol and caffienated drinks, those can trigger it for me. Whenever I become dehydrated I can feel one coming on unless I drink a lot to keep things moving through. I take cranberry supplements once a day, every day as well. I find them in the vitamin section at the drug store. You might see over the counter UTI treatments, like Uristat and the like. I have tried them all. They will help relieve the painful sensation of peeing, but they do not get rid of the infection itself. Nothing gets rid of the infection except for antibiotics. Also, these treatments are not recommended for more than a few days, and I have found that they turn your urine a very distinctive neon orange color (harmless side effect). However, this side effect can be annoying because it will stain anything that it comes into contact with. Expect to be throwing away underwear that has orange stains on it. I don't even use those OTC remedies anymore because I find that they don't help enough to make it worthwhile. But if you are absolutely dying and you can't get to the doctor right away, they may help alleviate the pain. I find ibuprofen, with plenty of fluids and cranberry pills work just as well. When I have a UTI, I amp up what I drink so that I am literally chugging water as much as I can stomach and make sure I am making myself pee as many times a day as possible. Drinking plenty of fluids with the antibiotics from the doctor help me to get over it sooner.
Lastly, I had myself checked for all STD's. Painful urination can be a sign of some STD's, especially if the symptoms are chronic and don't go away with antibiotics. I was worried for awhile that I may have had an STD because of my chronic UTI's, but after a battery of tests I was proved negative on more than one occasion. Still, it does not hurt to get tested and find out for sure. Many of the STD's I was being tested for were also treatable with a round of antibiotics, but without those tests you may be taking drugs for a UTI when you really need a different antibiotic to treat a totally different problem.
Don't wait to get the doctor if you are having any symptoms. I have had UTI's so many times (unfortunately) that I can tell exactly when one is coming on. A urine culture at the doctor will confirm if you have a UTI or not. If you suffer chronically like I do, it's important to find a good doctor that will know how to treat it. I have gone to doctors when I had a very early UTI and the urine culture comes up negative, only to come back a day or two later suffering horribly with pain and burning, with a urine culture that is undeniably positive. I have also found that sometimes when I drink a TON of water and cranberry juice (when I am fighting the pain of a UTI before I'm able to get antibiotics), the urine culture will come out clear and negative. It's as if the test is not sensitive enough to detect the bacteria. If you have symptoms, make sure you do not leave the doctors office without being treated for something, even if they determine that what you have is not a UTI. While I do understand that doctors must be responsible and do not want to over-prescribe antibiotics to patients, especially those who don't have clear test results, I do appreciate a doctor that listens to me. You know your body better than anyone else, so you have to fight for the treatment that you think is right for you. I cannot even count how many times I have fought with doctors to get them to listen to me, regardless of what that urine culture test might say.
So, keep yourself and your partner clean, stay hydrated, and have a good doctor on hand for when you are suffering. Hopefully this will help someone else who is in pain.
OP: KatieBug 10/10/2007












