OP: Disclosure of STDs to prospective partner

Hi. I am glad to hear you initiated the discussion. However, sending an email really isn't the best way....no matter how convenient.

There is no doubt that you need to tell a partner of any STD's that you have. The issue is really WHEN do you tell. In my opinion, having had my partner tell me he had contracted HEP B (not the deadly kind of HEP), it really should happen when the issue of intimacy comes up (no pun intended).

Don't wait till the head of the moment, but rather, if you sense that your evening is progressing in a way that may include intimacy, you should then take a break and talk.

Bottom line, no matter how she reacts, you're doing the right thing. Even if you dated her for a year, but never got intimate, I woudn't tell her till then. Because, if a person loves someone, and they do have some sort of affliction (not just STDs...there are people who are epileptic, or narcoleptic, or have high/low blood sugar, high blood pressure, etc), it's more a matter of timing.

Rawbob

Posted: 27 Sep 04:31

Well you definetly need to tell her before you get intimate, but it sounds like you already realize that. I would just sit down with her and be honest. Tell her how you contracted it, and (if she doesn't know about it) be honest telling her the risks, symptoms, and etc.

How will she react? I can't really say and hesitate to try to guess. If you're in a long-term more serious relationship, I would say there's a better chance that she would accept it. Or she may not want to take the risk no matter how serious your relationship is. You really just have to hope for the best.

mike

Posted: 27 Sep 04:31

Thank's for the quick response. I have already sent an E-mail to her trying to explain all the where's and how's. And no we have not been intimate.This is so devastating. What is a person to do? spend the rest of life by yourself? all because of another's lack of honesty and integrity!I have put myself on the sideline's for so long because of this. I'am at a total loss on how to move on from here,as this is never going to become a non-issue.

cjrd94

Posted: 27 Sep 04:31

Thank's for the word's. All is good I guess,we have since talked and I was all freaked out for naught. One real cool lady!
I'm glad that this site was here any way,cause I did need the reassurance that I was right no matter the outcome. I also new enough about her so that I had to give her the benefit of the doubt. And as a result my trust could'nt have been in better hand's.

cjrd94

Posted: 27 Sep 04:32